Thursday, November 25, 2010

Misconceptions of love Part 2: Competition

OH GODDDDD~! The deadest every climbing session was TODAY!

Climbed from 3-9pm WTH MAN?!?!?!?! LOL!

Before that went for lunch at A&W, DID YOU KNOW THEY HAVE WAFFLES IN A MUG?!?!?! LOL SO COOL!!!!!!!! LOL!!!!!!! Hahaha! My niece totally loves waffles + ice creammmm

Met an old highschool fren! Hope she's doing well =)))

Hmmm, forced my niece(not blood related) to start climbing first... then i lazy around like hell in the gym.

Then you know what? I just want to close my eyes and like sleep a few mins

AND EVERY 30 SECONDS MY NIECE WOULD ALWAYS DISTRUB ME

WTH!?!?!?!?!?!!?!?!?!??!?!?!?!?!!?!?!?!?!?!? !? CANT I CLOSE MY EYES?!?!?!??!?!?! FOR A MINUTE?!?!?!?!!?

WTHHHHHH!!! Man, WHY DO GIRLS TREAT ME LIKE THIS!!??! O.o!!!!!!!!

For.example.

Niece : Danny

Me : What?

Niece : NOTHING

Me : ............................

Niece : Eh danny

Me : What?

Niece : NOTHINGGGGG

Me : )$)!*#!(@#!@#)+_!)#+!)^(@*#$$@#)*)(**)_(_+

Someone.kill.me

OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! GGNESS SOAEKOIUAJSDSLAKJDA

SO anyhow, bouldered, then only we went top ropinggggg. Then you know what?

I FORCED MY NIECE TO DO A ROUTE THAT NEARLY OBLIDERATED HER AHAHAHAHAHA!!!

Then in the end....... SHE KEPT HITTING ME!! WTH?!?!?!? I SWEAR SHE HIT ME 3 TIMES!! OR MORE!! LOL! AND STEP ON ME ALSO! AND ALSO CURSE AT ME?!?!?!?! O.O!!!!!!!!!!

Girls are so violent these days XD

Then in the end she made me do the route alsoooo, but it wasn't htat bad for me la, managed to finish it. IN YOUR FACE PT HAHAHHA!

She learned a new word today... RETRIBUTION WTH?!?!?!?!?! Man, ben you SO thought her a wrong word.

Niece : *hits danny*

Me : What was that for?!?!?!?!?!?

Niece : RETRIBUTION

Me : YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS!!!!!!

LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!

BWAHAHAHAHAH!! Funny times man funny times

THen then... laterrrrr, you know whattt??

WE HAD TO DO HER FRIGGING ABS TRAINING AGAIN $*!&$)!)#*!@*#(!*#(!@

AND MY NIECE HAD A NEW ADDITION TO THE TRAINING

What was it? WE HAD TO BECOME A FRIGGING PLANK THAT'S WHAT THE TRAINING WAS OMG!??!?!?!!?!

Yesssss, AND MY BACK HURTS BECAUSE OF ITTTTTT!! GRRR!! And my abs too.

And THEN! Pooi lum comes, and gives us some even more FRIGGING FINGER TRAINING OMGGGGG!! LOL!!!!

That's y we only left around 9.30

Headed for supper~! Woops, actually dinner, we actually wanted to go waffle world.. But closing liao lor~ So went hainan coffee shop in tm instead. HEhe!

THENNNNN, back homeeee, had a bath its already 11.30pm... O.o!

Oh ! AND I LOVEEEEEEEE rihanna's new song! Only girl! Oh man, chorus is so so so sosososososos awesome and i simply love it =)

Maybe its just me aha!

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Okay! Time to get to serious stuff!

You know what, I've been thinking lately.

You know all these years, we've seen those... Dramas where people actually compete in love triangles etc etc.

In my opinion, love is NOT a competition

Don't get me wrong. Many cases where, 2 or more girls like one guy, or vice versa.

However, I disagree that people have to get jealous over each other.

YES, you will tell me its impossible not to feel jealous, but hey, don't let it spoil whatever friendship you have.

Surely you'd say, how can you say such a thing? It's like your losing on purpose since your not competing?

When was this ever about competing? Are you supposed to be better than the other guy or girl? Is that what your trying to prove?

Your being silly.

It's not about who is richer or who is smarter or who is handsome-r or prettier

It's about who better suits that person.

You'd say, exactly! that's what i've been trying to prove. That I'm better suited than the other person.

I disagree, you don't have to prove anything to ANYONE. Your just supposed to be yourself.

Nothing else. You don't have to ... See and compare and compete who spends more time with the guy or girl, or who makes him or her laugh more, or who makes him or her happier

Rubbish.

You don't need to compete. That's not love. That's ego.

People who have low self esteem are especially the ones to compete. Because they don't believe in their own self worth

They think "ah, what if im not better than the other guy or girl? I must do more, to prove that I'm better"

This is CLEARLY because you don't have any self esteem. Otherwise you wouldn't doubt your own value.

YOU are valuable. Just that, maybe the other person is better suited. Live with it, there'll be someone for you. And you gotta believe that your valuable

You ain't gonna be played into competing for someone. That's just... lowering your self worth.

SO say this. You are valuable. And you don't have to compete for anyone. The person who sees your worth will eventually be the one who appreciates you and live a good life with you.

So if you really think you need to compete for someone, then your probably portraying ego, and not love.

Understand love. Slowly you'll know what it is like

I am not sure either. But I think.. It's a warm feeling

I don't know, if it's that. But eventually, one day, I'll find out.

That's all for tonight folks~ CIAOZ! =D

p.s. So many mysteries =) can't wait to find out more about relationships =)

Saturday, November 20, 2010

Misconception of Love part 1 : I'll do anything for you

Yo! I just had a strange thought today, so I'll get down to writing about it

Have you ever seen.... The situation where... A guy or girl falls in love with someone

And that guy or girl would do ANYTHING for the person they love?

Yes, we've seen it happen before, regardless of gender

SO what is the problem here? Isn't it right to do ANYTHING for someone you love?

YES, but that depends WHERE in the relationship you currently are at.

If you are already in a long term relationship or even if you are MARRIED, then yes.

If you are NOT with the person yet, then NO. You should not do anything and everything for that person. This also applies to couples who have not built a strong foundation in their relationship yet.


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Why is this so? Isn't it proper that we show how much we care about someone?

It's simple, really, when you give love away simply like that, it is usually taken for granted.

Why? Because you gave it away at no cost.

Sureeeee, love is priceless etc etc.

But you have to look at it from this perspective. You gave love, something so priceless, away at no cost.

Have you ever received something for free and just chucked it away in your house somewhere? To be lost forever? Same story.

Becareful how you give it away. I'm not talking about the normal kind of love where you care for your friends, that's okay, but when it comes to relationship-kind-of love it's totally a different thing.

Maybe you might defend by saying our mom gives us love unconditionally. Sure, because she is our MOM. What about the girl or guy we like? Are they our mom or dad? No... Nothing can replace a mom's love. Nothing.

So that's why, when you would do ANYTHING for someone. Of course they wouldn't give you the same in return!

You never checked whether she would be willing to love you in return.

Yes, love is not expecting anything in return, but IDEALLY the other person would love you back.

Okay. So you say, I don't mind giving it to him or her, even if he or she doesn't return my love. Okay, if your happy with that then it's totally fine. Really. Problem is for most people when the love is NOT returned they get seriously upset and depressed.

SO NO. You don't be a slave for the person you like. That's totally and utterly nonsense. Neither do you be overprotective. Or do you place your EMOTIONS for him or her in front of your FRIENDSHIP with him or her.

Never ever ever ever ever ever x infinity start a relationship prematurely. Golden rule. Believe it or not it's really not healthy even if the relationship works out.

But nah, I'm not worried, everyone will sooner or later realize this. Just that, I happen to know this a little earlier is all. How do I know this? Just observing people is all. You don't have to be in a relationship to know certain basic things.

And remember, everything I say, the purpose is not to make anyone believe me, it's just for people to take note. One day if it applies to you then you will understand yourself better. That's really all my purpose really is.

SO don't worry about whether this is true or not. Time tells everything.

Ciaoz peeps, gotta go read liar game manga man oh YEA =D

Monday, November 15, 2010

Age

You know what? I just had a pretty interesting thought.

When we are young. What's really important to us?

Surely, it's about having a boyfriend or girlfriend.

Yesss, that's one of our main concerns in the early stages of our lives, as a teenager.

And most of the times when things goes wrong when you are going after the person you like, you'll get extremely upset

Or unhappy, sad, etc etc

But when we get older, say about 25?

What's most important? Money perhaps? Since we probably won't live with our parents anymore by that age. Even if we did it further implies that money is a problem.

What about 40? Around that age?

I see that people around that age do not put relationships as a main concern. It's not a real concern anymore, having a boyfriend or girlfriend

If you are married then, probably you still love your family a lot, but not the same way you did when you first saw your wife.

That... Infatuation feeling. No longer exists, probably.

Sometimes

I feel like I think ahead of my own time

Meaning it's like... I maybe 19 now but I'm thinking like a 25 year old. You know, about getting married and preparing a good financial income etc etc

When I'm 25 I probably will think like a 40 year old. It's the time we usually try to explore the world with what money we have saved up

When I'm 40 I'll probably think like 60? Probably I'll be thinking about ... What I've accomplished in life so far, was my first 40 years worth it?

By the time I'm 70 I'll probably think like I'm 110 years old? Hope I don't go nuts at an early age ahaha. I'll probably think, the knowledge and wisdom I have gained all throughout my years in relationships, money, career and everything else, should be passed down to the next generation. Otherwise it'll simply be a waste

Is that... good or bad? The age of the mind is... not the same as your physical age. Did you know that? I'm sure you do, subconciously we do know.

It can be good, can be bad, it's all a matter of perspective.

A 19 year old can act like a 10 year old

A 25 year old can act like a 19 year old

a 40 year old can act like a 25 year old

a 70 year old can act like a 40 year old

There's no right or wrong, just a matter of preferance.

It depends on what you want.

But believe me, succesful people live simpler lives than you'd think

It's un-succesful people that make their own lives complicated and create drama to attract other people's attention.

Go figure.

Really. I've seen some really succesful people, and in truth their lives are really simple. They really enjoy their life and they really have no worries.

Isn't that just simple?

I'll tell you what is complicated. Having a fixed schedule, going to work everyday. Having to worry about money, having to make a biggg deal out of small problems. Not being able to do what you want, instead you do what others want you to do. That is complicated.

You gotta know that the formula to success is really simple, everyone knows it, but not everyone has the will to do it.

Just ask anyone, how to be succesful?

Work hard, it's the most basic answer people will give you.

It's simple, people just like to make things complicated I tell you.

I sincerely believe you can be succesful as a business owner investor or employee, as long as you work HARD.

Only difference is the time you take.

That's all.

So it's okay, we might actually feel that employment isn't such a good field, but in actual fact there ARE people who do well there, and they are happy because it's what they like doing.

So yeah, just live your life the way you want it to be.

Though, problem is, only a very small percentage of people are happy with just employment.

So work hard at looking for an alternative. You'll find it.

Just follow that rule. Don't think too much.

Everything falls into place when you work hard.

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Going back to age. What is the age of your mind? Have you ever wondered?

Is thinking ahead good or bad?

Generally I find it is good, for me, but problem is the group of friends I mix with are still in the age where fun is a priority.

I still do have fun, but it's no longer a priority for me.

Securing a good future is a priority.

So yeah, I do feel a bit left out sometimes, but I am who I am, I'll live a better future if I invest time in it now.

Wait.

Actually, to be honest, fun STILL is a priority for me.

Why? Because when I invest in the future, it'll be easier for me to have fun NEXT time.

SO yeah, the future me will thank my past self for making this decision

Just like the future you will thank you if you start studying now for your exam that is 2 months from now.

Just think of it that way.

Studying for the future can't be a bad thing right?

The same goes for planning your future. Think about it.

Use your awesome brain and think. You'll get what I mean.

Think. Peeps. The world doesn't revolve around PRESENT fun, but FUTURE fun as well. What's really the most fun thing is just achieving your dreams.

And if you don't believe me, that's okay, I'm not here to convince anyone or satisfy anybody.

But in a few years time, you might think ... hmm, maybe he did make some sense

Several years time you might think... hey, what he said actually came true

So you might not believe me now, but you will, someday.

It does not matter what people think of you, as much as you think of yourself.

And I think, thinking far ahead is not a mistake. It's a deed to yourself.

In fact, subconciously most of you know this, but are just plainly in denial. The next thing I will hear is excuses popping out. Spare me.

Take control of your life. Otherwise you'll just be another normal human being going through a complicated life.

Being normal is more complicated than you might think, you just don't know it.

Being normal means satisfying everyone else but yourself, because you want other people's acceptance so badly.

Being normal means you don't dare to stand out and be unique and be yourself. Because your afraid other people might not accept it. So you just be normal.

Being normal means you don't live your dreams. Because normal people don't dream at all. They just care so much about what other's think about them that they forget their dreams. Their dreams remain as fantasies that they once upon a time thought, could be possible, but no more.

People just have to tell you "har? It won't happen lar"

And poof, there goes your dreams. Because you believe what people tell you.

Now that, is complicated. Living a life where you want to SATISFY everyone. You think that's simple?

Step out of your comfort zone, and you'll realize there's so much in this world, that you've missed out on.

Live a simple life. Work hard for your dreams. Ignore what people tell you. The only people that you should listen to is god, if you believe in him, your parents, your wife, your kids and yourself. The rest don't really matter. Really.

All of us are blessed with the ability to bring change. And we are all special.

Take a good look at yourself.

Those boundaries that are holding you down right now, they don't exist. Period =)

Nitez peeps =)

P.s. it's been a long time since I had a double post =) I feel much lighter now

Mixed Feelings

Just got back, and I've had some pretty mixed feelings

Let me get myself sorted out first...
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*breathes in breathes out*

Is this what the world really is like?

I can't believe there was so much I did not know. And there is even more that I do not know. Yet.

So that's... What it's like huh?

Today was definitely eye opening for me.

What's going on?

I am convinced even more now that humility is the way of life.

Wanting something is good, but wanting something that harms other people's lives is horrible.

I probably am thinking too much, but yeah, I need time to absorb those things.

I just don't believe it.

But it's real, and that doesn't change, whether or not I believe in it.

I am even more convinced now that I should help other people realize the predicament they are in.

It's more than just money. Money is merely a tool.

We humans think we know everything, when we don't. No one knows everything. Even at a later age, we might think we know MOST of the things going on, but no, I don't believe so. I believe there's so much more going on that we don't know about, not a single clue.

The thought just scares me. This world. The truth. It chills me to the core.

But I will learn to accept it. I can't escape it anyway. I just have to face it and pull through, no matter what.

We'll do it for sure. We'll escape this vicious cycle.

Have a good night peeps.

It feels so dark. Inside.

Sunday, November 14, 2010

My Mom's Dreams

This is the 100th POST OF THIS BLOG!!! And I am going to dedicate it to my mom, hence this post will be called, "My Mom's Dreams"
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Got home a while ago

For 19 years, I lived in my house

And today I asked my mom

Me : Mom, do you have a dream?

Mom : Dream? You mean goals in life?

Me : Yeah, I'm sure you have them

Mom : My first dream when I was young was to get away from Sarawak, my hometown

Me : Oh? But what about now?

Mom : I wanted a good husband

Me : Mm...

Mom : And I wanted my children to be better than I am. If I can't speak english well I want my children to be able to speak english well. And I wanted you to finish learning guitar. Now you stopped halfway, you can't play anymore. I dream for my children to finish what they started.

Me : Yeah, I can't really play anymore

Mom : What about your mandarin? What happened? No one teach you anymore?

Me : Mm... No lah, I just lack the initiative to learn

Mom : Haha, I don't want to use the term lack of initiative, its LAZY.

Me : HAHA. Lack of initiative means lazy lor

Mom : You should get a mandarin speaking girlfriend so you'll learn it

Me : Uhuhhhh ...

Mom : My dream is for you to get an honours in your degree. Education always comes first. Business can come secondary.

Me : So my main focus should be studies la...

Mom : Yes. It is my dream. But I know this business is good, I don't stop you, but you must focus on what's more important first.

Me : Okay, I won't neglect my studies. I will manage somehow

Mom : Even all your club activities, it's not really as important as your studies. Once you get an honours you can do whatever you like, and if your business doesn't work out you can always fall back to your job.

Me : Mm...

Mom : And, you set such high goals for yourself

Me : How you know ?

Mom : I know la... You've been my son for 19 years

Me : Haha...

Mom : But imagine you work so hard to achieve those goals. And just because you speed on the highway, and you get an accident, all is gone. Just in the blink of a second. Is it really worth it? It doesn't make sense to work so hard and then lose it all just like that.

Me : *nods* I understand. I'll try not to drive so fast



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My mom, her dreams are her children.

I didn't know she cared for me that much. And my bro too of course.

I know that if she ever lost me she would never be able to live with herself.

Sometimes I do feel that I'm pretty selfish, in a lot of ways, like for instance when I do drive fast. It's kinda selfish.

I didn't know that my mom's dreams were that

We kind of take it for granted. You know?

19 years, and I didn't know that all my mom wanted for her dreams, was for her children to live a succesful life

That was why she pushed me to study. That was why she always told me to seek her out for advice whenever I needed help. That was why she unconditionally loved me

Eventhough I'm not really a good son, in my opinion.

But today

My mom told me

She was actually really proud of me, though sometimes she is sarcastic with me.

Me : Why is it that you don't support me trying this business?

Mom : No, it's not that I don't support you, it's just that your priorities should be study. Don't neglect your studies.

Me : I won't. I just wanted you to believe in me at least

Mom : I do. I am actually really proud of you. You don't drink, smoke or gamble. Or do you?

Me : No, not at all

Mom : What more could I ask of a son? Except excelling in his studies?

Me : mm...

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My mom isn't wrong, she does have a point. She knows I am not the best at balancing my time. Sometimes I'm too engrossed in something till I neglect other areas in my life.

But I have to presevere and make it through somehow

If I want it badly enough I'll definitely get it.

I wish to make my mom's dreams come true as well. It will happen. Because I just have to really really want it

The only reason a dream never comes true is because you don't want it badly enough

If you want it badly enough, you will do whatever it takes to get to your dreams.

If you have a dream that hasn't been accomplished. Chances are you never wanted it badly enough in the first place.

Think about it.

It's time for us to think, spend some time in the future instead of just having fun. I'm not saying don't have fun, have FUN, but have a plan for your future as well.

This is not my gain. It is everyone's gain. Learn, be open, persevere, you'll get to your dreams, I promise =) Thanks

Have a good night peeps ^^

P.s. Thanks mom for everything =)

Thursday, November 11, 2010

AH chiuu~!

I'm down with a slight flu XD

TODAY I CLIMBED LIKE CRAZYYYY~!! AND I EVEN WENT FOR BADMINTON BEFORE THAT~~!!!!! MY LEGS ARE SO DAMN DEADDDDDDD~!!!!!!!!!! OH MY GODDD!!

Not only my legs

My abs

My arms

My fingers

My FREAKING ASS HURTS OH MY GODDD!!!

Badminton + climbing combo is the WORST! LOL! But it was a pretty fun day out with my niece XDDDD

Did so many silly things with her zomg.

Hard to describe what happened, but super silly stuff lar XD

COME ON I SERIOUSLY HATE HER SILLY ABS TRAINING PROGRAM THINGY!! OMGGGG AFTER DOING IT I SO COULDN'T WAKE UP ANYMOREEEEE!!!!

LOL!! THAT'S HOW BAD IT HURTTTT!!

hahaha!! Hmmm, my endurance level is the PITSSS~! totally need to work on it again XD

Hmmm, other than rolling around the matts and a bunch of other silly stuff, it was a pretty good day~~!

I showed her how to ROLL AHAHA WTH?!??! She said I looked like retardo james bond LOL!!!

We had waffles toooo, with ice cream, she really likes ice creammmm~~ Actually the waffles there are not bad XDDDD

After climbing also another round of ice cream HAHA! Oh my god I feel all the calories I lost have been gained back just through the ice cream XD

Did I mention im having flu? YES I DID IT ALL WHEN I HAVE FLU!! Im so crazy XD But it beats staying home feeling sick XD Fresh air alwayssss helpsss~~~!

We started climbing around 3?? After waffle world. Lol, thennnnn, ended around... 7.30?? WTH MAN! Damn frigging long XD reached home 8.40, superrrrrr tired. Ate dinner. That's y I'm still feeling full XD

Overall it was still damn fun despite the long day! Missed lunch with my good friends though, felt kinda bad, maybe next time

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You know I was thinking

People do ask me, why you know, are you so.........

Don't you want to enjoy your teenage life? Y suddenly so serious about life?

Well, I kind of realized

I've already passed that phase of my life.

Meaning I'm not so into having fun anymore.

Not that I don't wanna have fun, but hey, there are more important things than just fun la when you come to think of it.

I'm going to be 20 soon, in a few months. I have to start thinking properly about what I'm gonna do eventually.

So yeah, you might want to have fun, but I'm really sort of passed the "I just wanna have fun in my teenage years" period. I've had loads of fun already.

And now in order to have more QUALITY fun, you have to succeed in life. How else can I travel someday?

Hey hey, life doesn't revolve around your teenage years okay. Your gonna definitely make your adult life even better than your teenage life, okay!?

So yeah, invest a bit in your future. Do it. Take time to think and act for long term.

It'll definitely pay off. The greatest leaders always foresee the future and act upon what they see. Not the person who only plans tomorrow.

Think of it. =) I'm sure you guys can do it.

You'll understand eventually, what I'm getting at. It's just a matter of time. So why not start now? =)

Nitez peeps ^^

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Life

I don't really understand sometimes. How come?

Why can't people think ahead?

Sometimes I feel most people are so... Childish. They think short term most of the time.

Like what you say?

Career.

Have you really given some thought into whether you can sustain a good life with your future career? Really? Like really? Have you ever considered other options?

Relationships.

Whyyyy short termmmm? Do you really put in effort to ensure a long term relationship? Most teenagers are just in it for the fun of it. I don't really get why people enjoy short term pleasures instead of long term?

Health.

Okay, think of it this way. Now you can do everything with your life. Sleep late eat as much as you want. Etc etc. But for how long? A SHORT while that is. Maybe 20 years down the road you might regret. I'm not saying you gotta strictly control your diet but do keep yourself healthy at least through exercise.

You ask me WHY?????

I'll ask you WHY NOT?!!?!!?

Why not think about the future? Don't you care about your future?

Sometimes I really wonder why people are so blind....

Why can't people see what's really worth spending time for?

I just don't get it. Really. I don't. Why? Are humans so easily stereotyped?

To be so afraid of so many things in this world. Be open to new ideas. For once.

Haizzzz... I'm so totally in a bad time these days. Not as bad as previously but yeah...

Why? Why? Open your eyes and see the world for what it truly is.

I would say if I wasn't open to new Ideas then I wouldn't have seen the world for what it really is.

Grow up people.

Seriously.

Do something to chase your dream. Or it'll just fly away.

There are bigger things than relationship problems. Believe me. Grow UP!

Look at the bigger picture. Look at the longer term. Then you'll realize

Where your level of thinking currently is.

Suree, you wanna have fun, but how long can this short term fun last? You tell me.

The world as we know is slowly degrading and your there crying over someone not replying your text message?

Okay, cry, but get over it. Then get up. Then face the world and think of bigger things.

The biggest success in life

Is the success of life itself.

For when you are succesful, then money, marriage, and everything else falls into place by itself.

So grow up, and look at the bigger picture. And if you can't take me being direct, go cry somewhere in the corner. Forever.

I'm tired of being nice, it doesn't work that way in this world. If you are a friend you'll take my honesty and be honest to me in return.

Im actually being nicer by being honest believe it or not!

Kids. They're not those below 12 years old, there are those older than that, who are still kids, believe me.

and this applies to those above 20 or 30 years old. And I am NOT kidding.

Sit back and think about how many people you know who actually think like adults.

The definition of adult?

-He or she thinks about career 10 years down the road
-He or she thinks about relationships 10 years down the road
-He or she thinks about health 10 years down the road

So how many people actually plan their life 10 years ahead? You tell me. I can bet you you'll be surprised how few there are.

You know lah, kids, they just plan for tomorrow, or they dont plan at all. really.

For those who DO plan, at least you have some sense of maturity in yourself.

But you need to refine that plan. If you plan to work the next 10 years then you should really consider more options. Working a job isn't gonna guarentee you a good life.

SO think about it. Put your emotional woes away right now and think what's really important

now

Or the future?

So what's your plan?

You see people just find the easy way out. They marry someone richer. End of story.

But how many people can do that? You relaly think you'll get someone rich huh? And you want to marry someone out of money? How low can you get seriously?

Why do I say your low? Because your marrying someone for your own gain. Think about that for a second. Is that really a sincere way of getting married to someone?

Okay so you might not believe me, but in years to come you will. Then you'll think of what I said and say "he was right, if only I wasn't so naive back then"

Yeah, so to stop that from happening, change now.

If this still doesn't convince you then you really have no direction in life. Good luck getting to your dreams I say. If you have any.

Everyone has dreams. Even getting married can be considered a dream.

HEY! You think everyone can get a good marriage? Go and look at the divorce rates for pete's sake.

So getting a good marriage is a really good dream. So don't say that you don't have a dream. I sincerely believe EVERYONE has a dream.

Sheeshhhh, excuses. I end up creating them for you and answering them. See how predictable you guys are?

No time?

Yessss, EXACTLY, there is no time so that's y you should start looking for alternatives rather than just a job

No money?

OHHHHHH, yessssss, you got no money but when it comes to girlfren/boyfren... ada money ma =) when it comes to gambling ada money ma =) when it comes to showing off ADA MONEY MA! When it comes to spending on EDUCATION and KNOWLEDGE, tak da money worrrr.

Stupid.

These people just want short term pleasure.

Kids. Once again I'll say. Kids...

Third excuse?

I'm still young/ I'm too old

God damn. What???? Are you saying your too young to try something new? Or it's too late for you? WHEN is the right time?? Huh? When your 18 your too young, when Your 25 your too busy with work or family, when your 40 YOUR TOO BUSY TELLING PEOPLE HOW OLD YOU ARE AND THAT YOU HAVE KIDS.

I'll tell you when is the right time. WHEN YOU STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR YOUR LAZY SELF. THAT'S IT. PERIOD.

Excuses just make us such assholes la. You have no idea how much we lie to ourselves through excuses.

IF there is actually some sense in you you'll start to realize what I'm getting at here.

If not then... yeah good luck with life. I hope you'll make it somehow to your dreams.

Yeah, last note, I'm not directing this at anyone. Just generally telling. If you feel this applies to you then by all means, please take action on your life to change it.

Otherwise.... Either you already understand what I mean, or your you understand but dont care. Or don't understand and dont care.

Hope you guys found this helpful. Nah, no reason for me to apologize for the tone =) it's my blogggg, and I should have the freedom to express how I am feeling about people.

It's just simply depressing. Believe me.

When you get to a certain level of thinking, you'll understand. Gnitez for now =)

Friday, November 5, 2010

Pissed.

I have not been this pissed since god knows when.

I'm unsatisfied with so many things in my life right now.

What? You ask? Hmmm, let me see, club, friends, studies, business.

Yes, I am unsatisfied. WHY don't I deserve better?

Yes, I deserve better. Totally. I don't see why I deserve less.

I've been trying to put effort in all 4, but where did it get me so far?

Sometimes I am just speechless with my life. What is this?

What???????? There must be something I am doing wrong with my life.

Am I not balancing well? Am I focusing on too many fields at once? Come on, tell me, tell me what to do.

Today my friends asked me what was wrong with me?

Everything.

They asked me to tell them. How can I tell them? How? Just like that? You have got to be kidding me.

It's an array of problems, not just one. Come, sit and I can talk with you for one hour about my problems. But what will that help you? I'd rather save your time.

Not only that, you don't deserve to be ranted on and become my sponge. You deserve better too. All of you who read this, deserve better. ALL of us deserve better in life.

I don't know, but this must be my PMS of the year or something.

Life is really frustfrating for me right now. But I'll hang in there. And with time I'll be back to my usual self. Well, let's hope so shall we.

There might be a slight change in me eventhough I'm back to my old self. Who knows? I'm just saying. Anyone can say anything.

Ciaoz. Have a good day tomorrow.

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

What a Man Must Do in Life

1) A man must have a direction in life.

2) A man must respect women.

3) A man must know what he wants out of his life.

4) A man must plan at least 10 years ahead and not just tomorrow.

5) A man must think that he already has a family to feed, and prepare for the day it happens.

6) A man must not give in to sexual desires.

7) A man must respect others who are in a relationship and not interfere except giving advice.

8) A man must be loyal to his people and his wife.

9) A man must value friendship over his own emotions.

10) A man must think long term, not short term.

11) A man must be a good listener.

12) A man must be brave.

13) A man must not go back on his words.

14) A man must have the courage to stand up for his loved ones.

15) A man must not be afraid to love his parents and his siblings.

16) A man must face his fears.

17) A man must respect it when a girl says no.

18) A man must not demand respect, but earn it.

19) A man must be humbled down enough to admit and learn from his mistakes.

20) A man must understand that his ego is not as important as he thinks it is.

21) A man must help those who need help.

22) A man must be decisive.

23) A man must learn how to be sensitive to a woman's feelings.

24) A man must never give up on life.

25) A man must not touch a woman for a woman's body is a sacred place for the man she loves.

26) A man must ask questions when he is lost.

27) A man must treat others well eventhough he is not treated the same in return.

28) A man must put himself in other's shoes before acting too quickly.

29) A man must always think, not why, but why not?

30) A man must put others before himself.

31) A man must not be lazy.

32) A man must work towards his goals, for his future family, even if it does not exist yet.

33) A man must be learn to handle rejection.

34) A man must be strong willed.

35) A man must be sure of himself and has self confidence.

36) A man must have high self esteem of himself.

37) A man must be mature about his own emotions.

38) A man must learn to enjoy life, with the ones he loves.

39) A man must learn to appreciate life, so he lives his everyday like it was his last.

40) A man must learn and educate others throughout his life.

41) A man must not play with women's feelings.

42) A man must accept whatever life throws at him, and emerge victorious.

43) A man must be open to new ideas and possibilities.

44) A man must believe the impossible can be possible, and becomes the first to do so.

45) A man must accept criticsm like a man.

46) A man must understand that showing his softer side is not something to be ashamed of.

47) A man must learn to love himself, for only then can he love others.

48) A man must not be selfish in love, even if love may be selfish.

49) A man must be kind to everyone.

50) A man must respect his parents and listen to them.

51) A man must not always think he is right

52) A man must dare to dream big.

53) A man must know when he has to leave it all up to faith and take the plunge.

54)A man must try whatever is in his power to make a change to the world and make it a better place for generations and generations to come.

That. Is a real man =)