A Father's Message to His Kids

Read an article about a dad who new he had only less than a year to live, and he went on to buy birthday presents for his children's 18th and 21st birthday, filmed DVDs, paid for his own funeral and all those other things, before moving on from life.

So here is his message to his kids when they are old enough to read it. He's such a responsible and wonderful dad.

A FATHER'S RULES FOR FINDING FULFILMENT

• Be courteous, be punctual, always say please and thank you, and be sure to hold your knife and fork properly. Others take their cue on how to treat you from your manners.

• Be kind, considerate and compassionate when others are in trouble, even if you have problems of your own. Others will admire your selflessness and will help you in due course.

• Show moral courage. Do what is right, even if that makes you unpopular. I always thought it important to be able to look at myself in the shaving mirror every morning and not feel guilt or remorse. I depart this world with a pretty clear conscience.

• Show humility. Stand your ground but pause to reflect on what the other side are saying, and back off when you know you are wrong. Never worry about losing face. That only happens when you are pig-headed.

• Learn from your mistakes. You will make plenty so use them as a learning tool. If you keep making the same mistake or run into a problem, you’re doing something wrong.

• Avoid disparaging someone to a third party; it is only you who will look bad. If you have a problem with someone, tell them face to face.

• Hold fire! If someone crosses you, don’t react immediately. Once you say something it can never be taken back, and most people deserve a second chance.

• Have fun. If this involves taking risks, so be it. If you get caught, hold your hands up.

• Give to charity and help those who are less fortunate than yourselves: it’s easy and so rewarding.

• Always look on the upside! The glass is half full, never half empty. Every adversity has a silver lining if you seek it out.

• Make it your instinct always to say ‘yes’. Look for reasons to do something, not reasons to say no. Your friends will cherish you for that.

• Be canny: you will get more of what you want if you can give someone more of what they desire. Compromise can be king.

• Always accept a party invitation. You may not want to go, but they want you there. Show them courtesy and respect.

• Never ever let a friend down. I would bury bodies for my friends, if they asked me to . . . which is why I have chosen them carefully.

• Always tip for good service. It shows respect. But never reward poor service. Poor service is insulting.

• Always treat those you meet as your social equal, whether they are above or below your station in life. For those above you, show due deference, but don’t be a sycophant.

• Always respect age, as age equals wisdom.

• Be prepared to put the interests of your sibling first.

• Be proud of who you are and where you come from, but open your mind to other cultures and languages. When you begin to travel (as I hope you will), you’ll learn that your place in the world is both vital and insignificant. Don’t get too big for your breeches.

• Be ambitious, but not nakedly so. Be prepared to back your assertions with craftsmanship and hard work.

• Live every day to its full: do something that makes you smile or laugh, and avoid procrastination.

• Give of your best at school. Some teachers forget that pupils need incentives. So if your teacher doesn’t give you one, devise your own.

• Always pay the most you can afford. Never skimp on hotels, clothing, shoes, make-up or jewellery. But always look for a deal. You get what you pay for.

• Never give up! My two little soldiers have no dad, but you are brave, big-hearted, fit and strong. You are also loved by an immensely kind and supportive team of family and friends. You make your own good fortune, my children, so battle on.

• Never feel sorry for yourself, or at least don’t do it for long. Crying doesn’t make things better.

• Look after your body and it will look after you.

• Learn a language, or at least try. Never engage a person abroad in conversation without first greeting them in their own language; by all means ask if they speak English!

• And finally, cherish your mother, and take very good care of her.

I love you both with all my heart.
Daddy x

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So What's Next?

The badminton tournament is finally over.

So much hard work. And it is over. 4 long days.

Today, the finals, what awesome matches. I really had no idea.

I became so inspired. By the match. It was such a high standard match that it really made me feel. Wow.

Our college's very own national player faced off against the male singles champion.

In the end, the male singles champion won.

But the match was so great that I was really... Astounded.

She (the national player) showed some really amazing skills.

What really impresses me is her clever use of mind games and feign shots.

A smash shot turns into a drop shot just in like that! *flicks finger*

Tactics, strategy, planning. Wow. Just wow.

I feel so inspired right now. By her energy and her fighting spirit.

There is definitely the champion's aura from her. I feel it.

Unfortunately she has stopped playing for a month. Design course. You know how it is.

But if she had consistently trained, I think today's match would have ended quite differently.

She told me her training used to consist of waking up in the morning, training until lunch, then sleep for an hour or two, then train till dinner, then after dinner train till sleep. Everyday.

That's the national level for you.

Jia Lin you are one very amazing girl. Never have I met another like yourself. So that is, a national player for you. No wonder she made it so far.

It's a pity she did not continue training, otherwise I think she doesn't even have to study.

So what do I do now?

I am the president of the Rotaract Club. Our first real event in years I would say. This badminton tournament really made some name for our club.

There is progress.

But now I must focus and think of the very next step.

What should I do?

I already have an idea or a picture of what I want to achieve. Time to start taking action to draw it.

Thank you Jia Lin, for you have shown me the way, indirectly, without even noticing it. While the fire burns hot within me, I will do what it takes to make it happen.

Am I tired? What? Jia Lin played such a tough match while I just sat and watch. I shouldn't be complaining about feeling tired.

It isn't just about smashing hard. It isn't just about dropping the shot. It's about timing and precision of those shots. Where it lands. How to catch your enemy off guard, making them think it is a smash but making it a drop shot. Perfection of strokes.

Okay. It's time to move. Time waits for no man.

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Today I was Praised

Today a friend praised me

It is a little sad that when people praise you, the level of happiness is not the same as the level of hurt or sadness you feel when you are criticized

So because I should learn to be more happy about that praise, I will write about it

I was praised today.

A friend told me that a nice guy like me would not have trouble finding a girl!

And actually! I am quite happy! I just read that message again!

Sometimes I wonder how far along the journey I have come, and how long more there is to go.

The journey to becoming a real man, that is.

So many mistakes. But none of which I have regretted. For they have taught me so much. Without those teachings I would not be what I am today, so I am grateful, not regretful.

That day, last last Friday, in the Rotaract general meeting

I read a note out loud to the whole room. In front of 20 members.

The note was about my goal to get married by the age of 25. To be able to improve myself financially and also in terms of personal development to become a better human being.

Yes. I said it to all my members.

And because I said it I have to do it. Otherwise I would be a liar.

It was actually a little bit embarrassing to read it... It's the note that I would read every night before I sleep! And in the morning after I wake up!

I knew that it had an impact on a few of them in that room. I know that, a few of them understood the power of reinforcing your mind mentally consistently.

Yes. I got my message across. And I was happy.

Now everyone is waiting to see if it would happen.

Would Danny Siah get married by 25?

Would he?

Does his methods work?

Will it come true?

If I believe in it 100% then it would come true

If it doesn't happen it just means I did not do it correctly

So I must keep trying. Persistently. To make sure I get it done right.

To the few who understood my meaning that day. I hope you write down your goals and read them everyday consistently.

It will surely help you achieve what you want out of life. Do not underestimate the subconscious mind. It does things your conscious mind could only dream of.

And so I was praised today.

And I am happy.

What a wonderful thing to have someone have an impression of you that would let them say such nice things about you?

I will do my best in all my undertakings. I hope that I can learn how to love her properly. Despite all hardships and tough times, I'll learn to make things work and last. I'll read lots and lots of books. And I'll make sure I become as good as I can be as a man, in order to increase the odds of getting married at what most people would consider, a young age of 25, in a first relationship.

Odds are slim. But odds are always odds. They don't beat miracles.

So as long as there is a chance that it will come true I will continue to believe. At the back of my mind it will happen.

Every night before I sleep after I have read those goals. I try my best to picture it. Me getting married. Burn the image into my mind. Feel it. Sooner or later. It will come true.

It must. Because somewhere in the future.

It has already happened.

Goodnight =)

p.s. I was praised today

Danny Siah

Student Council and Rotaract

It seems that the Council has chosen it's path

It chose the path of professionalism

Today I noticed that, that was the way in which the council is headed

I realized that the executive committee holds the highest influence

And in that, the path of KBU's Rotaract club is in my hands as well

It is such a huge contrast to me

Why?

Simply because I am in both clubs

It gave me a different kind of perspective

There are two ways one could go in a club

The path that emphasizes professionalism

Or the path that emphasizes friendship

Now, the answer is subject to the people who are leading the club

Balance between both? What is the 'right' amount of balance between professionalism and friendship?

The fact is that, this balance depends on the people who lead the club

For person A, maybe 80% professionalism and 20% friendship is the 'right' way to go

For person B, maybe 20% professionalism and 80% friendship is the 'right' way to go

Is there really a thing as the 'right' amount?

Who is right and who is wrong?

There are those who are 50 50 as well

Well, to me, getting the 'right' amount of balance is not as important as having a united mindset

If everyone agrees at a certain amount, then the amount does not really matter anymore

What matters is unity.

Everyone having the same goal and same mindset

That has a higher priority than getting the 'right' amount

So if the executive committee feels that 80 20 is the right way to go, then 80 20 it is

As long as everyone has the same mind set, then slowly, but surely, the 'right' amount will come by itself

And it will not be any kind of fixed figure

Only because as a club we are always growing. So eventually we 'grow' into the right amount

Today, an executive committee said a lot of things

To me, what was most important, was not the words he used, but the 'action' of being able to express himself

That carries a lot of weight in itself. The action.

The words are secondary to his actions

The fact that he was brave enough to say all that he has said, is proof enough to me that he cares.

Understanding his actions, has led me to his intentions. He wishes a greater good for the club.

In fact all of us do. Just that all of us have our own ideal way of doing it

But no, if we all cannot come to follow one person's vision, then we will be lost trying to show each other how to do things 'right'

The important thing is to talk with your leader often, understand his vision, the way he or she sees things, and have faith in him or her. Build bonds. Friendship

In that way, eventually. Both Friendship and Professionalism will play its own role and show the way.

Let there be mistakes, for those are what makes us bond and become closer to one another. If we were too professional, our mistakes would show that.

If we were too friendly, our mistakes would show that as well.

I have made my own set of mistakes and it has taught me so much.

So do not falter. Do not fear. Just keep going. Keep staying together.

Persist, for at the start of everything, it is always hard.

But from there we learn. Thus the bonds are built and things will change. Always. For the better.

Unity within the club, then unity with other clubs, then unity, with all

Thank you, for reading a humble man's thoughts =)

Danny Siah

Depths of Perception

Finally! I started playing Dragon Age 2 =3

Even though it is the holidays I don't play as much games as I thought I would.

The gaming industry has improved so much and is expanding at a fast rate in most of the genres. You see tons of first person shooter games coming out, RPGs and all kinds of cool stuff :3

So pretty much my holiday is made up of planning for a college event, reading, and playing games!

Awesome? Haha! Okay la =3 I just need to change my habit of sleeping late.

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Have you ever wondered about the concept of perception?

Let me give an example

Let's say you are a perfectionist in a world filled with only perfectionists

Then being a perfectionist would be the normal thing

Because everyone in general has perceived it to be normal.

The same goes, if everyone was happy and expressive, then being happy and expressive is normal

However, in our diverse world, being a perfectionist, or being extremely hyper are seen as being a little more than abnormal you could say.

But that's the beauty of it.

However, I realized we should not be too critical of others, because if we are, then they will be critical towards us as well.

Each of us has at least one attribute which is considered abnormal or strange.

So before you talk about someone else being too... crazy... too hyper... too perfectionist, we should look at ourselves and realize.

That's what makes us humans so special. If everyone was a perfectionist in a world of perfectionist then everyone would be sad because nothing is ever perfect

The same goes if everyone was a hyper crazy person in a world of hyper crazy people then everyone would not get anything done and just want to have fun

So understand that it is our diversity in human personalities that are supposed to compliment one another and make this world a better place

So please, do not judge others for the way they act. We need to accept it as part of being human. I just understood this, 20 minutes ago after seeing my friend's comment about me needing to 'tone' down

I realized that it does hurt a little, when people tell you 'you should not be like this' or 'you should not do that'. I think we should all just learn to accept one another.

It made me open my eyes too. I always judged perfectionists very harshly. I did not understand why they cannot just loosen up and don't take things so seriously.

But that is wrong. I should accept and understand them. Just like how I want people to accept and understand me.

Sometimes you sit down and realize... It is really easy to hurt someone without realizing it. Even though it is not your intention. I think we just have to be more perceptive about others, how they feel, and learn to see things from their point of view.

Also I would like to say that, sometimes I can be a self-centered kind of person. I enjoy the spotlight and the attention I receive. It's the truth. I won't lie about it. I'm just that kind of person.

At the same time, I also realize that I can accept criticism fairly well. Most of the time I would not feel hurt by people's remarks. Except this time it did hurt a little. But a little sting is good if it makes you realize things about the world.

Sometimes I can be really expressive, and type in HUGE CAPITAL LETTERS. That's just me. Full of energy when it counts. And usually with friends I am comfortable with I can spread a contagious kind of energy that gets everyone hyped up and crazy.

Strange how it happens. But I just enjoy seeing others laugh =) So I am grateful to have this ability.

And lastly I must also understand that, most of the time, people don't intend to hurt you with what they say. They just didn't realize it. So you shouldn't take it too personally, or too seriously. Otherwise you will be easily hurt most of the time.

That is why I am working on my self-esteem all the time. It is my shield. So that I will be able to stand up for what I believe in and not be gunned down too easily by people's remarks. If I am easily swayed by what people say then I can never be a good leader.

So that is why. I build a strong wall of self esteem.

It is different from a defensive wall.

The wall of self esteem makes use of the important ingredients. The first of those ingredients is love.

There are 9 more ingredients. But I understand that without love as the foundation, the wall of self-esteem will never be strong, even with the other 9 ingredients.

So that is why I learn to love. Now and forever. For me and everyone else.

I feel much better now! Men are always better at expressing themselves by writing things down instead of expressing themselves verbally.

Thanks, I feel like I can be more forgiving and accepting of people now.

It just seems like any bad experience that happens to me, I always can make something good out of it. I don't know why.

Must be my optimistic nature =)

Well have a good night folks! Thanks for reading ^_^

Environmental Chaos

Lately I've been thinking

The environment around you surely affects you in one way or another

I've realized that given a situation to a person, say, myself, I would definitely act differently given the different environment and atmosphere

And I would say it applies to all human beings

It affects us even so when we are in our growing up stage

I still ponder about, what kind of environments generate the desired outcome

From my observations, some environments make things feel really competitive.

Some environments make you feel like you have to portray yourself excessively without even noticing it

Some environments feel very relaxed and very accepting

And even some, make people feel tense and they feel like even anything you could possibly say would sound wrong

And I really think that in order to grow the right way, we need to be in a positive atmosphere where everyone accepts one another

Without it, it would affect our mental growth

That started to make me think

What is the environment that I am mostly in?

I would say I am usually either in college or at home

In college, I usually hang out with the SC peeps

I don't usually see my Rotaract peeps often

Only once every two weeks or so

That explains why, I am more prone to be closer to SC peeps

In the house, nowadays I usually watch SNSD

haha... I am so addicted to them

But they are really talented girls and I always smile when I watch them

Only problem is sometimes they have haters, so yeah.

Other than that they brighten my day. So generally at home I have a pretty positive environment

And I am happy for that

Without a constant positive environment, we tend to stray from living the right principles in life

Even someone like myself often gets challenged by environment even when I have pretty sturdy morals and principles about life

It kind of makes you think, hey, maybe if I can control the environment I am in, then the outcome would also be in my control.

Yes. I need to be in control and merge with environment

Only by understanding the atmosphere, can I push it to the way I wish for it to be. Positive.

I hope to find a book about this. Then I can learn a lot more.

However, since I have yet to find something about this, I shall have to make my own observations and proceed from there.

A long time ago I learned about air pressure. Well, it seems that air is always exerting pressure onto our body

And from within our body, air is also pressing outwards

Which explains why, in outer space, our body will explode because the air inside of us pushes outwards due to the absence of air.

The key is balance. Without a balance all things will be destroyed. Our body, minds and soul and even this world requires balance.

And I think that if the environmental influence / aura is too strong, it pushes inwards onto our body

Which, in turn, in order to balance this, our internal thoughts / aura is suppressed.

On the other hand, if our internal body environment and thoughts are stronger, it will push outwards, and environmental influence will be suppressed, resulting in us being able to express ourselves easier

and be one with nature

However this is only my assumption. Things still need to be tested. I will hope to experiment for myself what happens when I strongly express my thoughts, to change the environment to make it within my control

There have been many times I have been unable to control the environment which I am in, resulting in me not being able to be myself, I feel like I am holding everything in. Not good.

So that is why I would like to learn, how to set the environment and atmosphere

I understand that this is very important and relates closely to human psychology.

I also feel that this has a lot to do with controlling your presence

With some method, you can actually suppress your presence, or even amplify it.

Probably with internal energy.

Your internal energy communicates with the external energy which is the environment

You have to feel it to understand it. I do not think that it is so easy to be explained in words

Learning how to control these... variables will aid greatly in putting situations under your control

and avoiding environmental chaos.

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Lately I tried a few experiments

The first one was that I made an event

To go out. I made it happen within 24 hours

I did it by expressing my views very strongly

And I did it with extra vigor and force.

I said we are definitely going to go. I did not doubt it

And we went.

The force was so overwhelmingly strong that others started to plan events as well

However, as of now, most of those events do not seem to be happening

At that moment, I controlled the environment

I made it such that having an 'event' was the in thing

I brought the momentum onto the table

It resonated and it made other people feel it, that momentum.

It drove them to create their events. It wasn't really the words I used, but the expression of those words, do you understand what I am trying to say?

However, when I stopped talking about it, after the event was over, the other events started to fall. They don't have that momentum anymore. It stopped. I was the cause of the momentum. And when it stopped, so did the other events

Only one event other than the one that I made is going to work out. Also partially because I encouraged it aahahaha.

That is one method of environment control.

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The other experiment

I expressed my views extremely strongly

Though it is not the most professional method to use, I did it nonetheless

Because I knew that the risks are low. I believe in them and in myself

I expressed my views about a certain topic which, was actually quite sensitive

And actually, most people would not object

But I made it into a big deal. And now everyone is concerned about it

This is important, because people did not realize that this topic is ACTUALLY that important to talk about.

That topic can cause a very huge misunderstanding and a lot of problems

So I did it. I became the fire-starter once more

The difference is because I am the fire-starter I have some control of where the results will be going

I can choose when to concede

I can choose when to push forward

I can choose when to stop

I can choose how deeply we need to discuss this matter

It is another method of environmental control which I am trying to experiment with.

And because there is so many layers of the organization, I can actually observe the different reactions and different views

It makes me feel in control of the situation

Even though it is risky

But look, I got nothing to lose. Except maybe some face? That's the most. But to me, a little face is worth losing, if I can learn how to control the environment.

Every interaction that I have gives me some experience and it makes me smarter, at least a little bit.

I feel like there is still more to learn about this, and I will continue experimenting

Until then, stay tuned :3

Goodnight, world =)

p.s. It seems the fire-starter methodology suits my aggressive nature very well ^_^

Expectations

There are so many times where things feel so tough and it feels so hard

The burden of responsibility is never easy

And because I have high expectations of myself, the feeling of not reaching those expectations just brings my heard down a lot

There have been times, especially lately, where I really feel that I am incapable of becoming a good leader

I just really wish so much that I could do a better job

But it also feels like I can't

It just feels like... You know... A leader should be this and that and this and that

And I don't know what to do

It's like... There are people who I really thought had potential, but they really disappointed me cause they didn't show up

If it was once, I would not mind, but it is a few times

It feels like they don't really care, and they don't even tell me that they are not coming

It hurts even more then

Am I such a terrible leader?

I don't want to criticize anyone

So I don't know what to do

But it feels like I should talk to them

Whenever this happens I lose confidence

HOW! TELL ME HOW!

Or am I just afraid of confronting them? Just letting it be?

No, it won't solve anything. If I don't face it then I won't ever become better than what I am now

So if I really want things to work out, I have to talk to them