A Moment of Enlightenment, A Side Never Shown

dan the man~ says:
hv u ever had that problem?
9 浪子天魔星 says:
suffer ?
dan the man~ says:
mm, suffer due to not being able to express ur true self
9 浪子天魔星 says:
yea
dan the man~ says:
a lot of us
actually
hold a lot of sadness inside of us
that we never express to anyone
9 浪子天魔星 says:
yeap
i
dan the man~ says:
one of the worse sadness
is not being able to love
your parents
even i am facing that
i have never said i love you to my parents since i was a young boy
9 浪子天魔星 says:
u feel shy ?
when talk i love u to parents
dan the man~ says:
due to certain reasons i was never able to say
it
9 浪子天魔星 says:

dan the man~ says:
mm
any advice?
9 浪子天魔星 says:
hmm ... if u cn face those reason n t to talk even once i love u to parents , u wont regret
it is a magic
haha
dan the man~ says:
hahahaha, magic eh?
one day when im able to face it i will try (:
the other sadness that most people never express to others
is
not being able to forgive someone
forever
9 浪子天魔星 says:
sometimes , ppl always cnt put down their 'faces'
so , many misunderstood will nvr b solve
dan the man~ says:
the speaker did not go into details but
if you never forgive
then
you actually
can never forgive yourself
for not being able to forgive that person
and it will remain with u
the rest of your life
9 浪子天魔星 says:
it is suffer
dan the man~ says:
he told us this story
about his life
he said
when he was young
his dad
always abused him
whenever his dad lost a lot in gambling
his dad would slap him and beat him
he was really traumatized
but one day
he couldnt take anymore
so at the age of 16
when he was slapped once more by his dad
he went and took a stick
and said
"if u ever touch me again, i will not hesitate to fight you"
from that day onwards they never spoke to each other
he hated his father
he did not at all see any reason to forgive his doings
he always purposely treated his mom warmly in front of his father
and also all the other aunties and uncles
never said a word to his father
and he purposely
drove home a nice big car
to show his dad
"im better than you"
that his dad is more useless than he is
and so that unforgiveness stayed with him, for more than 15 years
finally at the age of 33, he went to a talk
which explained
the importance of forgiveness
then he sat there
and cried
and decided
that it was time
he flew back from overseas
borrowed a car and went all the way back
to his home in ipoh
he went in his house
and he put an arm over his dad's shoulder
and said "dad, im sorry for treating you this way for the past 15 years"
his dad also cried, "son, i am also so sorry, for everything that i did...."
and he said
that after that
he felt
a huge weight
lifted off his shoulders
and he could live true with himself once more
i felt that was one of the best stories he told (: there were many others
n that is why he is a speaker whom i truly respect
9 浪子天魔星 says:
hmm ... in reality , no much ppl could b brave as him ... n dare to face the wrong thing he did
but , actuali he is not wrong oso .. coz tat time he is onli a child ...
he suffer .. n could not find a best way to solve the problem
by the way , he cn at last face all tat , n apologize
the problem b solved at last
quite touch
dan the man~ says:
yes, it is because he had a big heart, that he was able to forgive his father for all that he did to him
in the end
hatred was never the way to solve anything
he shared many other stories
i think you would have liked to listen too (:
9 浪子天魔星 says:
o ?
haha
dan the man~ says:
he was once
afraid of heights
he could never stand near the edges of cliffs or anything above 10 feet
otherwise he would shake and tremble and become dizzy
but u know now
he climbed mount kinabalu 56 times
and he's going again in january
he conquered his fear
no
9 浪子天魔星 says:
it is great
dan the man~ says:
he turned it
into his strenght
that is even greater
he thought us how to take the leap
he has this swimming pool built there
and there was a platform 10 feet high
and we are roughly 5-6 feet in height
so its about 15 feet high
he told us
it all starts
with taking that one small step
that one jump makes a difference in everyone's life
for me
it was okay
i wasnt afraid of heights
but one girl
she was soooooo afraid
she was shaking
she said that she couldnt
but
he talked to her
while they were standing on the platform which was 10 feet high
she wanted to jump
then hesitated
wanted to jump
then stopped again
she kept repeating
everyone suddenly got restless
then kept saying , come on! jump! u can do it!
but it didn't really help
finally
the speaker
when she wanted to hesistate
he just held her hand
and jumped in together with her
9 浪子天魔星 says:
he is reali a ... how to say .. it is pro o wat ? he is a ppl who reali noe how to encourage n teach ppl
when he held her hand , jump together , the gal will feel ...hmm ... secure
n dare to face it
sometime , encourage is not onli cn use TALK but nid ACTION
in my opinion lah
dan the man~ says:
yes
in the end
the girl
she went up again
and finally
she jumped in on her own
9 浪子天魔星 says:
owh ! thats reali gud
i admired that speaker ...
dan the man~ says:
and then he told us
that many of us, we jumped, we did a really good job of not fearing it
but for that girl
that jump, means a lot more to her, than anyone else's summersault or forward flip
it means that she learnt a lot more from that jump than we did
because she
just conquered her fear
9 浪子天魔星 says:
en
the gal willing to oversome her fearless ... u noe , not eve one could do that even if the speaker acc him/her jump together
dan the man~ says:
mm, she is brave to face it too
9 浪子天魔星 says:
yea
dan the man~ says:
another important thing he told us
is that
the way
some parents treat their children
if
your son
is holding a bowl of soup
and he drops it
and it breaks
most parents
will scold their children
and tell them about their mistake
but he said
if my son dropped a bowl of soup
i would take a cloth
and wipe the soup
and clean up the mess
and then
i will give him a new bowl of soup, and let him carry it
why?
because
this
is how you let him regain the confidence he had lost
not by scolding him
give him the chance to try again
9 浪子天魔星 says:
en

dan the man~ says:
some people
are so scared to try again, because they were scolded before
9 浪子天魔星 says:
eve ppl nid diff way of edu , onli s is useless i tink
dan the man~ says:
yes
if
you did something wrong
and someone scolded you
you'd feel quite negative about urself
and you'll start to blame yourself
but if that person
gave u another chance
you will try to make things better the second time
i didnt do so well in emceeing the event on friday
and i kept blaming myself, even though ppl said i did well
i kept forgetting names and getting mixed up
so i kept blaming myself when i got home
now
i feel
i should stop blaming myself
and
if given another chance
i will make it much better
than the first
for sure
he said this
we learn more
from mistakes
than we do
from succeeding
so i have to stop being so hard on myself, and start to accept my mistakes
i think that rm70 that i paid
was the best rm70 i ever spent
in my life
9 浪子天魔星 says:
i tink , u absorb much lesson there
nice yea
dan the man~ says:
mm
another thing he said
he said
most of the people
everyone
only realize 10-20% of their full potential
the rest
they never achieve it all throughout their lives
that's why they never ever succeed
why?
it is because
they only think they can do "that" much
when what they can actually do, is so much more
so the first thing is, dare to dream big
never ever
think
that you are worthless
never
each of us are special
never think that, i look so ugly
i am not worth a single cent
i am not as good as that other person
this is the attitude that keeps us from realizing what we are really worth
he said that his frens when he was a kid
used to call him skinny legs
it was really cruel
he was always left alone and bullied by his frens
it was a real mental torture for him
and
he developed
this disease
called
obsessive compulsive disorder
do you know what is that?
i dont know what it is called in chinese
but
9 浪子天魔星 says:
yea i noe
dan the man~ says:
okay
the one where u have to switch on and off
or
if senget abit
u hv to straigthen
9 浪子天魔星 says:
i suffer that once a time ... but vy light lah
dan the man~ says:
that disease, OCD, is
a sign
that
you are suffering
and
you are trying to ease ur suffering
by doing those things
he had OCD because he was always bullied by frens
he was scared, and very jumpy all the time
BUT
one day
he met
someone
his name was victor lim
if im not mistaken he was a malaysian swimming champion back in the day
this victor lim, saw the speaker, and felt something was wrong
because
even though all the boys would be swimming
the speaker
would pretend to not want to swim
because he was afraid
that ppl would call him names again
so he pretended to go and use a buttefly net to go and catch bugs
when actually he also wanted to join the others for a swim
it was really sad
and finally
his mentor, victor lim came up to him
and said
"hock siew, you have something deep down in your heart, that you have to address, and let go"
then
after hearing those words
tears streamed down his cheeks
he finally felt
like
someone
understood
his suffering
someone saw that he was suffering
and finally
he had the guts
to toughen himself up
and accept himself for what he is
and never succumb to what other people would say about him
and he said
if
he never met that mentor
he never
would have changed
and in the end he no longer suffered from obsessive compulsive disorder
9 浪子天魔星 says:
did u record all this ? o jz memorise it naturally ... ? great horny bro ...
dan the man~ says:
when
its about something important
i always remember it
always
9 浪子天魔星 says:
oci

dan the man~ says:
something that will help me
i will remmeber it (:
because someday i these hands of mine
9 浪子天魔星 says:
thats gud
dan the man~ says:
will change the world (:
so i need all that i can get
to achieve that
he said
people will accept you for what you are
if you accept the label they place on u
if they label u as skinny legs
and u accept it
then it will continue
or big head
or small boy
or something like that
if u just accept what they say
they will continue to label u
but
if you are strong enough
then you
will place your own label , your own value on yourself
show them, that your worth a lot more than they think
this requires courage from the heart, and it can only be gained when u start to believe in yourself
never allow others to control your life
i was a bit like that when i was a kid (:
9 浪子天魔星 says:
most ppl lik tis d
reali
haha
dan the man~ says:
i was really shy, and i just accepted whatever people said about me
9 浪子天魔星 says:
u cn s e all these in ur blog eh
let others noe these oso
dan the man~ says:
mm
9 浪子天魔星 says:
it is reali help
it could b a direction for someone
dan the man~ says:
hmmm
the problem
is that if too many words will be hard for people to read
unless i personally tell them on msn or in person, is very hard
BUT
maybe
just maybe
9 浪子天魔星 says:
not reali ... u nid technic loh
dan the man~ says:
one peson will
read it all
and maybe
it might affect his or her life, in some way
9 浪子天魔星 says:
yea ... reali hav that kind of ppl one
dan the man~ says:
and so
that one person
will go on
and he or she
will also try to change another person
and it might just go on
might be worth a try