Friday, December 31, 2010

New Year's Resolution... REALLY?!?!?

Haha!

Yo peepsss~! =) What a day.

MY NEW YEARS EVE WAS HELL I FRIGGING TELL YOU!!!!!!!!!

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IM HALF DEAD!!!!!!!!

Let me explain. I was up doing my assignments yesterday till 3-4am

Went to sleep, woke up at 9 something

Went to meet up a friend and climb. We shall call this friend PL.

You see, whenever I climb with PL, I NEVER SURVIVE.

WHY?!?!? BECAUSE OF ALL THE FRIGGING TRAINING AND BODY CONDITIONING HE MAKES ME DO!!!!!! GARGHHHH!!!! *$&*&*!@#(*!#(!@)#@!

IM IN PAIN NOW!!

We lead 3 routes

Then we did about 20 chin ups.

Then we did about 10 normal push ups, 20 alternate hands push ups, 10 CHEST pushups (the one you make the heart shape with ur hand) AND FINALLY 5 DIVING MONKEYS PUSHUPS WTF?!?!?!?!?! I SWEAR TO YOU MY ARMS ARE GONE!!!!!!

Okay, that was not all.

I SWEAR TO YOU HE MADE ME WALK LIKE A FREAKING MONKEY!!!!!!!

What do I mean? I'll tell you. You have to bend down on all 4, and WALK like a monkey.

CAN YOU IMAGINE!!!?!?!?!? 3 SETS!!!!!!

And also, SIDEWAYS LIKE A MONKEY!!! )*!&#$*(!&@#*)(&!@*(#&!@*)#&)(!@*#(!@!!!

It's parkour training... *!%*&#)@!*#(!*(#!@)#)!($)

MY LEGS HURT!!!!!

So my chest hurts, arms hurts, and legs hurts.

BUT IT WAS NOT OVER YET!!!!

I HAD TO DO 20 V-SNAPS (the one you lift your leg and chest up at the same time)

20 RUSSIAN TWIST!! (legs 1 inch from the ground and you twist your body left and right)

20 BICYCLES!!! (elbow touches your knee, left and right is counted as one)

20 ASS HAILS!! (hard to explain)

20 OF SOME KIND OF WEIRD THING I DONT KNOW HOW TO EXPLAIN BUT IT INVOLVES THE ASS AS WELL!!!! !@#*!&@#!@

5 x 20 = 100!!! that is 1 set

I HAD TO DO 2 SETS!!! (*$&!@*#&*(!@&#*!@&#!

I COULDNT EVEN GET UP AFTER THAT!

Then, CONTINUE LEADING!! OMG! I did some overhanging route, I managed to reach the top after.... 8 falls?!?!?!??!?!?!?!?!?!?! DAMN CRAZY LAAAAAA~!

Next time show you guys.

Anyhow, after that, go to the cave area, BOULDERINGGGG~!!!!

we were doing a circuit. We have to climb 40 HANDHOLDS!

3 SETS!!!

120 HANDHOLDS!! ($&!(@*#&)(!@*#)(!@*#!@(#!

So yea, I'm literally DEAD RIGHT NOW!! HAHAHAHAHAH!!

I came back from 1u, oh man, it was pretty jam.

AH! Why am I here? Cuz, assignments due on tuesday and wednesday haha! That's y

So yeahhhh, would love to celebrate new years, but oh well! Studies =)

I can't screw up haha!

SO! What Have I learnt in 2010 :-

1) In the end I cut my hair~!

Yeah, I said I wouldn't but I did. Ahhh, well, it was for a good reason. But still, I did say I wouldn't cut it =/ A guy shouldn't go back on his words.

2) I didn't achieve 7a in climbing, my highest was 6b+ =/ Well! It's allright, I'll make it this year through practice and consistency =)

3) I learnt a lot about friendship and relationships. Good stuff. I enjoyed it, actually. I understand humans more. It's going to help me greatly, and I have more to learn about it =)

4) When someone hurts you, love them. No matter what. Be their friend. True story.

5) I learned that when you are faced with pain, you have two choices. Be weak, or be strong. It's a matter of choice. So choose =)

6) I know little of this world =) There is so much more to learn, that I have yet to expose myself to.

7) There are a lot of people in this world. Yet the world is a small world. Always remember to do good. Karma will come back at you. If you do good you receive good. If you cause pain and hurt to others, that's what you receive in the end. We have to understand whether we have good karma.

8) The pain and suffering enlightens us to the truth of the world. It's true, happiness is great, but it cannot exist without sadness. I'm happy to have gone through pain this year. It makes me feel alive, and I have learned much. Everything happens for a reason. And I have benefited from it =)

9) Count your blessings. There were times maybe I wasn't so appreciative of what I had, and simply neglected it. So yeah, we should always count our blessings. Often times we tend to hurt people without knowing it. So instead of looking at the bad things , look at the good things too, and you will really enjoy life =)

10) Life, is full of surprises. Yes yes yes. In fact I went through one of my biggest surprises this year. Who knew? Let's say that it was the most UNEXPECTED x 10000000000!! I still don't believe it till today. But yeah, when I was told THAT, I seriously was shocked. Ah. Man, I still don't believe it. Yeh, STILL don't believe it. okay, AND I STILL DONT BELIEVE IT DID I SAY I DONT BELIEVE IT??!?!?!

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I'm expecting even more surprises in 2011. Cuz that surprise I received in 2010 was.... yea, I STILL DON'T BELIEVE IT.

Can you imagine!?!!??! Danny Siah does not believe in something. CRAZY RIGHT?!?!?!? HAHAHAHA!

Anyhow! Let's start with 2011 resolutions~!!!!! :-

1) Reach 7a FOR REAL.
2) Keep my hair =D
3) Focus on my dream to change the world.
4) Learn more about money
5) Study hard and get a 1st class honors.
6) Understand human nature and life better
7) Gain the insight ability
8) Learn learn learn learn learn learn
9) Never give up.
10) Freedom. of. Expression. Which is so so so sosososossososo important to me. FREEDOM. =)

I want to be free someday. Travel the world with more than enough money. Then one day when I am financially independent I'll give away money to those who need it more than me. So in order for that to happen, I need to understand the concept of money and master it. Use it for a good cause.

Of course! It's a dream, and it might change. Not change, more like, evolve. I definitely need to take a look at the world. There's so much to see. It'll be nice to travel.

Yes, I need to be inspired by the world, in order for me to make a change. The world has to change me first. So that is why I must go far away.

I believe that if I ever go somewhere, I will definitely change. And evolve, and become a different Danny Siah than what I am today.

And that new Danny Siah, will go on to learn even faster, be less lazy, and be more dream driven than ever. He will definitely come back and shock the world. That's who he will be =)

To the future me. 5 years from now.

You are 24, and I am 19.

This is my letter to you. I hope that, by 24, you have found the love of your life, I think that she will be very lucky to have you, and you will be lucky to have her. Love and marriage is not something selfish. I hope that you have mastered the art of being kind, and giving to those around you, whom you deep down really cared for, but was just too afraid to admit it and show love to them. And by that time, you would have a great career already, I believe, because you know how to be responsible. You know that it is important to be financially sound and independent. You know that in order to benefit everyone you need to continue learning, and giving away what you have learned so that everyone else can benefit. You love this world a lot, and by 24, you would have seen much more of this world, and love it even more. But still, you probably want to see even more of it. You will be inspired to become a great person that will bring great change to this world. Because you believe in yourself, and deep down you know you have the capability to do it. The best thing I can do now as I am at 19, is to pave the way to success for you. I will work hard, get a good grade so that you at 24 can be at your best potential. The future looks really bright right now. Because I see a man, 24 years old, standing in the distance. Yes, a man, not a boy, not a kid, but a man. He's smiling. Reading this old passage back. Thinking back of all the old memories of the 19 year old Danny Siah. Thinking, "oh, my how I've changed" So that is why, it is our promise, to make a change to the world. We share the same dreams of getting married by 25 too =)

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It's funny, I can really see him now. That 24 year old version of me. I just don't know how to explain it. Like I really see him. Yeah, that's me. That's who I'll be in 5 years. I even know what hairstyle he's going to use. It's really funny... If you ask me whether he's happy.

He definitely is. Happier than ever. He's already achieved a lot at that age. I don't know, but I just know it. He understands people, and loves them. Dearly. He is the man that I cannot be today, at the age of 19.

And I see him, grabbing my hand, telling me never to give up. Never. Go on with your dreams. You have really beautiful dreams. Go get em tiger =) Is what he said to me.

So that is why, I shall pursue my dreams, and learn more about life. And that 24 year old man, will be my inspiration and motivation.

Life continues to surprise, so don't be surprised when life surprises you =)

I can't wait. Let 2011 begin.

TO A GREAT NEW BEGINNING! =)
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p.s. My body still hurts HAHAHAHAHA! XD Happy new year guys, may all your dreams come true =)

Monday, December 27, 2010

True Strength

I've been phased with a thought recently.

What is true strength?

Often times people think that 'strength' comes in the form of physical power.

But to be honest that is not where true strength comes from. Sure, being physically fit helps, but nothing beats the strength of the mind.

Now comes the question. Do you have 'true strength'?

A pretty good question, isn't it? We are beings of question. We should often question, and then find answers =)

If you ask me, I think that I do partially have true strength

I have yet to fully grasp it and master it. I don't know how partial is that strength, but I know it exists in me somewhere.

When did this true strength help me?

1) Enduro, I remember that my body was beyond its limits, climbing for 21 hours straight. I was only able to make it because of that factor
2) The sleepless nights where I had to constantly work on my assignments
3) The recent roller coaster of emotions I went through
4) The times where I just simply wanted to give up on life

And many more, which I cannot remember.

No matter how physically fit you are, it doesn't matter if you aren't mentally and spiritually fit.

I am unable to fully awaken it though. Only during certain situation can I harness its power. It's going to take me a few more years to master it fully.

Oh yes, one more situation where I can harness 'true strength'

5) When my second personality takes place

I realized lately that I have this ability to inspire people and think from a neutral point of view about this world. Looking from the outside in, not from the inside out like most people do.

I don't know if it's a natural talent, but I do know that it is something special about myself. And it cannot be seen physically. This trait of mine. You look at me and you wouldn't think I had it. That 'knowing' ability.

And yes, I cannot always use it. Only during certain situation can I do it. When I feel inspired by some external factor. Or when I listen to motivational speeches. Or sometimes it just happens naturally for no apparent reason.

All in all I don't have full control over it yet. I can't just do it, you know? The situation and environment has to be right.

It feels like

The combination of the mind, body and soul. I don't know how to explain it, but all 3 definitely play a role.

It's something higher, which I think can be practiced and learned. It is just that I somehow got a 'head start' in it compared to most people.

So if you ask me again, if I have true strength, than I would say, maybe, if this is what you call true strength.

Then perhaps I have it.

How important is this strength?

Very. I would say. It is so important to be able to think clearly from a natural point of view about this world.

It will help you in relationships, friendship, studies, career and everything else.

Nearly every aspect in life is influenced by true strength.

Can a normal person have it?

Yes, anyone can have this. In my opinion if I can have it then there is a possibility that others can have it too. How?

I can't give u a fool proof way, but I can tell you what I did, that helped me attain some of it.

1) I always reflect on my life. I always looked at things from a neural point of view. Mine, and the other person's. Compare and contrast. Then decide what's good for you.

2) Think. Use the mind. Exercise the mind. How? Talk to people, share ideas, think of your own viewpoints of the world. Share it with people. You are sure to grow if you do this. Do not be afraid to express your ideas. You will constrain your growth if you do not express yourself freely.

3) Learn. Keep an open mind. Be open to ideas. Don't push them away too soon. You might actually get some inspiration or idea from others. There must be a reason why the other person would think that way, right?

4) Positivity. This is really healthy for any individual. With great positivity you actually broaden your minds to large number of perspectives. Being negative would result in a lot of depression, hence making your mind focus more on your emotions rather than what's out there in the world. Very unhealthy, so be positive.

5) Release the de-limiter. What I mean here is, do not limit yourself. Often times we say things like "I can't do it". Say "how can I do it?" Think, we have a mind for that reason. Once you say I cant do it you are doing a lot of harm to your mind by NOT allowing it to think.



Well, you can see mostly what I focus on is the mind. True. I am very mind oriented in a lot of ways.

Emotionally and spiritually, you could say I might lack experience there. But when it comes to the mind I'm pretty sure of what to do and what not to do.

Though, I am still learning, I believe there is still a long journey ahead for me. And I cannot wait to learn more.

Hopefully I will learn more about spiritual teachings and emotions handling.

Then perhaps, my 'true strength' will be more complete. Now it's still weak, I cannot control it and use it at will. But in time, it will grow, with more experience, with more knowledge, with more thought power put into it, it will definitely grow

Then I can slowly start to motivate people, see the truth in people, and love them for what they are.

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You know, I also had another thought lately. Couples.

They don't have to be 100% compatible. I've seen many couples in my life that have made a success out of their marriage. Despite not being even 50% compatible.

Why?

To me, I think it's because they put in effort in their relationship and marriage. They take time to fully understand each other, and learn more about another. And spend time with one another. Relationships take nurturing.

We still need to spend time with our spouse after marriage, not just in the early dating phase.

So if you want a relationship to be really successful, make sure it is during a time where you can 'afford' to spend time and money to nurture the relationship.

Otherwise it might just go to waste and affect both you and your spouse.

Now you wouldn't want that right? Of course everyone wants the best for each other.

So, you know you might even be 100% NOT compatible

But with a lot of effort, and a lot of acceptance I believe that it is possible. Although it is hard.

You might ask why would ppl be attracted to each other if they are 100% incompatible?

My answer, is that most of the time, it is lust.

Well, it doesnt take a lot to have lust. Just the right environment, right timing, and if you both are genuinely good looking, then lust is not a problem.

So usually lust has little to do with personality. I said little, not none =) But it's definitely easy for most people to generate lust with each other

So after lust comes the real test of love, usually. Where personality plays a more important role.

So the compatibility factor is just a small portion of the picture. Even if you are 100% compatible, but you cannot spend anytime with each other due to being too far away from each other OR too busy working OR simply just neglecting the relationship

It will 100% not work

But a couple who has 50% compatibility with each other, but they put in quality time to spend with each other, always go through problems with one another, support one another, and care for one another constantly.

I would say it has a much higher chance of working out. It just makes sense.

So yes, I just saw a quote on facebook, so I quote

'love is not finding the perfect person, its finding all the imperfections in the person perfect'

in other words

Acceptance, in my perspective that's what it is, in one word.

Practice it, you'll find it will do greatly in the relationship

so the 3 important elements in relationships are :-

1) Time
2) Sincerity/Honesty
3) Acceptance

There are other factors but of course if you got these 3 its pretty good.

But remember, there are things you can do to spice up the relationship. Well, I haven't been in a relationship so I can't say what those things are. If I do try it someday I'll definitely share it =)

Having True Strength in a relationship helps a great deal.

One would think it is easy to accept everything about your other half. But no, from experience I don't think it is easy to accept another individual.

So really, it's not about finding someone you can love, more like you are finding someone you can accept.

Does that make sense? Acceptance comes before love, in my opinion, not the other way around.

But lust comes before acceptance.

Hmmmmm

Sorry, I was just inspired =) hahaha, it's a bit hard to explain

I would like to meet more great couples and learn from them.

Well, naturally, if you follow people who fail in their lives your gonna end up like them.

And if you always follow people who succeed your bound to succeed. So be careful who you seek advice from

Chances are the advice they give is going to be based on their own experience. So, take care who you ask =)

But I'm eager to learn. I wish I can meet those kind of people and ask them.

What made their relationship work? There has to be some reason.

Join me as I indulge further into the world of understanding humans

I would like to type even more, but, my stomach is not feeling well ahha!!

Too much chocolate cake, maybe?

So that's all for now! toodles =)

Sunday, December 26, 2010

HAHAHAHAH!

You know!! Me and my niece have some HISTORY when it comes to rock climbing!! BWAHAHAHAHA!!

Thinking about it makes me LAUGH!! LAWL!!

Okay, here's the story.

Last thursday, we climbed~! And GUESS WHAT! I thought my niece LEAD CLIMBING!

For those who don't know what lead climbing is, it's where you bring your own rope, and you have to clip the rope as you climb up the wall. You might have seen walls with many clips on them. That is specially for lead climbing!

THE THING IS! It's RM200 for the course. Soooo, I decided to save my niece's money, and teach her! =D

So you see, funny thing, the course is usually about 4 hrs. I taught her in 15 minutes XD HAHAHAHAHA!!!

SO you understand why I nearly died on 23rd December. Nuff said XD

HAHA! So you see, she had to learn how to "clip" the rope in. We did some exercises on that

And OFF she went!

And after that, she had to learn how to belay me.

SO! Funny thing is, usually when a first timer does a LEAD climb belay, someone else has to supervise.

WELL, since I was climbing, I COULDNT SUPERVISE HER AHAHAHAH!! HOW RECKLESS RIGHT?!?!!? NO ONE SUPERVISED HER BELAYING MEEE~!!!

AND I EVEN TOOK MY LEAD FALL!!!! XD on purpose~ and im ALIVE!!

I knew she wouldn't let me die XD If she let go of the rope i wont be typing this here today already XD

OKAY OKAY HERE COMES THE FUNNY PARTTT~!!!

Today right. I wanted to make her get USED to lead FALLS

Sooooooo!! What happened was, there was one point, she wanted me to tighten the rope!! So that she wouldn't have to fall so hard.

HAHA! BUT ALL I SAID WAS

me : No la~! JUST FALL!! BWAHAHA!!

niece : PLEASEEEE!!!! TIGHTTT!!!

me : No =)

niece : PLEASEE!! UNCLEEE~!!!

me : no way =)

niece : PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!! WOIIII!!!!

me : =D

niece : F*** YOU UNCLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

me : HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAH!!!!!

niece : F*** YOU SERIOUSLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

me : LOL!!!! SO GARANG!!!! but you still have to fall =)

niece : WEI!! SERIOUS LA!!!

me : okay la, I will tighten only if you can reach the next clip =)

niece : OMG!!!!!!

IN THE END SHE DID REACH THE NEXT CLIP!!

SEE I KNEW SHE COULD DO IT!! BWAHAHAHAHA!!!

man im so osososososo evil!! But you see!! SHE HAS POTENTIAL! Just that she lazy only. Pampered only. THERE'S NO WAY IN HELL I'LL GO EASY ON HER MUAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHA!!!


BWAHAHAHAHAHAH!! BWAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!

The first day I thought her how to lead climb, SHE TOOK HER FIRST FALL!! about 3 clips

SHE SCREAMED AND THE WHOLE GYM HEARD HER!! BWAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!

MANNNN~!!! I was shocked too~!!! LOL!!

But ahhhh, her screams, music to my ears! =DDDDDD

HAHAHA!!

But it's quite fun climbing with her. I HAVE SOMEONE TO TORTURE BWAHAHAHAHAHA!!! SO FUN TO TORTURE TORTURE TORTURE

AND THE BEST THING IS?

SHE CANT TORTURE MEEEE~!! BWHAHAHAHAHA!! BECAUSE I DARE TO TAKE LEAD FALLS!!!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA!!!

So you see, lesson here, JUST FALL LA! It's not so bad. Lmao. Once you get used to it you sit the genting space shot nothing onez leh. HAHA!

SO NIECE! HOPE YOU HAD A GREAT TIME TODAY! IM SURE I DID!! WE'LL CONTINUE OUR NEXT SESSION OF TORTURE ON WEDNESDAY BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!

ahhhh, rock climbing is so fun

I'm gradually getting better at leading ,but gotta train more, get some strength, do harder and higher grade routes.

And I'm healing better thanks to supplements! Really glad for them. It's hard for the body to take tough training when it isn't well nourished.

THE FIRST OBSTACLE IS THE FEAR OF FALLING! So we gotta overcome that, it applies in every aspect of life. When you fear something you should run towards your fear not away from it. Cuz it's gonna chase you forever if you don't decide to face it.

SO YEA! That's all for now! HOPE YOU ENJOYED THIS POST NIECE HAHAHAHAHHAHAAHAHA!!! SUPER LMAOOOOOOO~!!! XD ciaoz =D

Friday, December 24, 2010

To my BFF

Ah! It's my 111th post! SO HAPPENS! HAHA!

GUESSSSS WHATTT~!!!! My best friend's birthday is Today~! It's going to end soon though~! I thought I would just dedicate a post to her =)

I have a BADDDDDD feeling by the time I finish typing this it'll be past 12am, but no matter! =D

HMMMMM~! Where do I start.... I can't remember... LOL!

She was the first to really consider me as a best friend. It didn't really matter whether it was serious or not. That's actually one of her good traits, she has the ability to win people over without much effort , with just her charms, really.

To be really honest, as a best friend she thought me a heck load of things. You have no idea. It's just simply crazy how much things has happened since I met her erm... 10 months ago? It's been a wild ride. I can't believe the last 10 months actually HAPPENED.

Life is really just unexpected. You never know what it throws at you.

Yeah, who knew life would throw a fat cat my way? HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA!!!!! *prays hard*

The best thing about this friendship here is that we can curse each other freely. AIN'T THAT AWESOME??!??!!?! And say what we want at any given point of time =) FREEDOM is so so sososososososos important! At least for me XD I can't stand having a best friend where I have to control what I say.

HAHA! Although I DO get hit often when I talk about pervy stuff. HELL I'LL SAY IT ANYWAYZ! BWAHAHA!

But I also understand that, in every friendship, misunderstandings happen, and sometimes there are certain things that you have to accept about your friend. No one is perfect. I started to learn so much more about friendship after getting to know her.

I didn't know it was possible to get close to people. I am a distant guy when it comes to friendship. I never really kept close friends. Never had any fixed group of friends. I was always all around. Who knew? But she's different, she has the ability to get close friends in short amounts of time. It's really shocking, to me at least.

I started to learn, more about people. Learning how to be a good friend is really important. I am sure I have made mistakes along the way of our friendship, but it is part of the process and journey of being friends.

You know, everyone is actually a good person. I want to believe that. And I know she is genuinely a good person too. Sometimes, even good people will hurt others, it is normal, even I hurt people too without knowing it. It's not that we want to hurt people. It's just that sometimes we just didn't know it would affect others so badly.

Most would think, heyyyyy, after being friends, that's it. All is good =) But nahhhh, since when is life so easy? Life is a test of how well you get to know your friends. The more you know someone, the more you see their true colour, and that's where the test of friendship begins. Everyone has two sides of them, at the very least. I am no exception.

It's easy to be nice to strangers. But it's hard to be nice to your best friend. Really. You want the best for them. And you can't always be nice if that is the case.

So I apologize for the times I've hurt you. I know that there were sometimes where you didn't say it, but it definitely happened. Till now I don't know, but I am sure there were such times.

I want you to know that due to circumstances, maybe we cannot hang out so often anymore. But still were BFF's till the end. I'll do my best to be a best friend.

Friendship teaches acceptance. It teaches forgiveness. It teaches trust. It teaches so much, and words cannot really express how much there is to learn from it.

She places friendship in a really high place. More than I do. That is something I need to learn from her.

She has so much potential.

You know I used to think, "my, she's such a kid".

But that IS HER! That's what she is like. That's her character. That's Lam Suk Ling!

That's what makes her HER! I didn't get it until now hahahaha!! Omg its so funnyyyy!

And I started to see that that's what's so special about her. Why in the WORLD am I trying to change her? It's so silly.

So what do you do as a best friend? Accept. That's right. You accept, your best friend, for what he or she is. And appreciate it. There is good in everyone.

That's what friendship is. It's good to correct each other, but its more important to show compassion, trust, and care.

And guess what!

I appreciate it! I appreciate it when she's not kind to me. I appreciate it when she curses me. I appreciate it when she's brutally honest to me.

Why? Because I'd rather not have a fake friendship.

I appreciate it that she is willing to be her real self. It's not easy to show your real self to someone. So that's why I appreciate it.

Very few people have gained my trust to such a level.

It's a bad trait I have.

I am stupidly loyal to those I trust.

And I am stupidly loyal to old things. My phone, my wallet, my silly awesome van XD

They are all old and worn out, but I still use them! It's so silly! I never want to change them! I don't understand it either.

Whatever pain that is going to come in this friendship, I'll take all of it.

It's the price to pay, and I am willing to go through with it.

I don't know what's going to happen.

But why does that matter? As long as you BELIEVE in the friendship. As long as there is TRUST. Then what else matters?

What is trust? In a friendship?

Trusting someone, to the extent where you still take them as a best friend, even WHEN they hurt you. It is going to happen.

You hurt the people closest to you without knowing it. It IS going to happen. That phase will happen. You have to be prepared for it.

My only FEAR, is that one day you'll be afraid of me! I don't ever want that to happen. I don't want you to be afraid of hurting me. I don't want you to be afraid of talking to me. I don't want you to be afraid. That's the worst thing that could happen.

I can accept whatever you throw at me. It's the truth. Because I am stupidly loyal. That's just so stupid I don't know how else to describe it XD

That's why I am not afraid to write this. If I was afraid you think I would dare to write such things? LOL! I might get taken advantage of man.

But I believe, so I'm not afraid =)

Thanks for being a friend =) I want this friendship to last a longgggggggggggg time. It's gonna be hard for sure. But hey, nothing great has ever been achieved without hardship =)

Most friends are there when times are happy and great.

But only real friends stay when things are terrible.

SO eat, pray and love life, HAPPY 19TH BIRTHDAY ~!!!! =)

I'd put ur pic but later got some random person stalk you or something HAHAX~! Merry Xmas =)

P.S. REPLY THE FB INBOX LA GOD DAMN YOU!!!!!!!!! XD

Monday, December 20, 2010

I always wanted a Girlfriend

A longgggggg time ago, in my secondary years, I always wondered what it was like to have a girlfriend.

I thought that you need to be good looking to have a girlfriend.

Then I got to college. I saw that, it really isn't just about looks at all.

After that just recently I understood, that love is not the same as lust, though a bit of lust is good to spice up the relationship

But you know what?

I always did want a girlfriend.

Always. All this while. I want one so much that I'm not going to mess it up for sure.

I want my first girlfriend to be really special

I want her to really mean something to me

I want her to be someone really important to me

Someone I'll cherish forever

And I don't want to hurt anyone, in the process. I know that, if I just do trial and error, I will hurt a lot of girls that way.

And to avoid it, I started to learn how to control my feelings.

It is not easy, but what's even harder is hurting other people. So if all it takes is to control my feelings, its definitely possible.

People often would say that they want to get some experience in relationships

I don't want experience

I want to get married.

Love is the most important ingredient in anyone's life, and marriage is no exception.

I want to understand what love is all about. I still think that I haven't fully understood it yet.




Isn't it nice? I always felt it would be nice

To have someone pack lunch for you

To have someone to come home to

To have someone you can talk to about anything

To have someone you can spend time with talking silly things and laughing

To have someone you can lie down with and just look at the stars

I'll eat her home made lunch box, I'll come home and just can't wait to see her, I'll talk to her about all our problems, and laugh over silly things that don't make sense. I'll lie down and watch the stars with her.

I'll proudly tell my friends this is my girl. And so what if others laugh at the lunch box? It doesn't mean anything to them =)

I know it's not good to promise too many things, but I'll definitely do my best in the relationship, because I know relationships require effort.

I want that so badly. I want someone to take care of me when I'm not feeling well. And I'll do the same for her too.

Ahhhh... man... I'm crying now... How shameful....

It's just.... really lonely.. sometimes, and it's really painful.... Whatever I'm going through

Life is just... so hard sometimes

I feel really stupid.... I just don't understand myself....

...It's my own fault for being like this. I don't blame anyone for it

But I'm not weak... It was really good to cry.

I'll be, much stronger now, after letting it out. Things are going to be okay. Things are going to be okay.

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I know this, the time will come for me one day, it's not that far, it's just a few more years =)

I didn't know that I wanted to be loved so badly. It's okay, I can definitely wait for the right person to come by =)

That special someone is somewhere in the world right now. I'm just waiting for the day we meet each other one day =)

And when that day comes

I'll give my 100% into it.

I'll be a responsible boyfriend.

I'll make sure I am capable financially and mentally to take care of her, otherwise I simply don't deserve her.

I'll make sure I get to know her parents. I'll make sure I treat her parents with respect, as much as I do mine.

I'll do what it takes. To make it a great and wonderful relationship =)

That's my biggest dream.

That dream burns deep within me.... It's the greatest desire I have

So that's y I work hard from now, so that at that time I have spare time to spend with her. I know things will definitely pay off if I just keep focusing.

I'll also do my best to keep trying to understand women better, even though it's hard to understand them as a guy haha!

But I'll keep trying. Someday I can definitely understand.

Ahhh... I just cannot wait for that day that I meet her... I'm obsessed with it. It's like I love her already. But I can't guarantee that claim, because I don't fully understand what love is yet. Maybe just a portion =)

Hm, assignments waiting for me, I'll be off then. I feel better now haha....

Nitez peeps =)

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p.s. Faster come into my life la silly girl =)

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Relationships

I'm here to talk about relationships. To all out there who misunderstand what a relationship really is about.

No, it's not about "i love you you love me i want to be together with you forever"

No, its not about "i need you i want to feel you i want to touch you"

No, its all about "i'll go through all the hardships with you, and I believe in our relationship no matter what"

It's not about being all lovey dovey with one another. That's just satisfying each other's sexual desire. A relationship based on sexual desire is just bullcrap. Don't give me that, that's not a real relationship.

Neither is a relationship that is based on "i want to look good and i want to make other jealous and i have the hottest guy or girl as my bf or gf"

that's just ego. That's just wanting to make yourself look good for the sake of your low self esteem. That's just another pile of crap. Together with sexual desire its just a pile of dirt and rubbish.

What is a real relationship?

A real relationship is where you go through PROBLEMS together. No matter what happens. Go through it. Don't just comfort him or her, go THROUGH it with him or her. How can I help? Is there something I can do?

What else? It's about revealing your true self to the other person. YOU THINK that by being nice to each other, everything is going to work out? BULLSHIT. Being nice is PRETENDING. It's not being honest with each other. HONESTY is EVERYTHING. It's easy to be nice, hell I can be nice to strangers, even.

Get to know that person you like before making any move. Go through problems with that person, as a trial run. Have some misunderstandings. Get to know him or her better. Then you know, if both of you can handle arguments, and misunderstandings. How the HELL are you going to solve problems when it happens in a relationship otherwise?

ARGUMENTS are HEALTHY. Why? As I said, it lets u know what the other person really is about. Does that person avoid problems? Does he or she have some kind of fear or some kind of attitude problem? All these things need to be addressed BEFORE you get into a relationship

You CANT like someone just for their GOOD part. You gotta like them for their BAD part too.

You think relationships are simple? NO, its not, because its all about acceptance. TOTAL acceptance of the person you like. Sure, things are great when you guys are not arguing. BUT what if you are fighting? Will things just solve by itself? Well, you wish.

Can you accept someone else, who has a totally different opinion? HELL NO, it ain't easy. Try living with your family you'll know that its hard, EVERYONE has different opinions. It's all about understanding one another, and accepting.

So you think you can pull off a relationship by just going through the good times? Dont give me that crap, it ain't gonna work off in the long run.

NO ONE is perfect. If you think that guy is super duper nice or he's so good to you, then don't buy it. There is definitely a catch. Get to know what that catch is. No one is perfect. No one. There is no mr or mrs perfect out there. Unless you identify the flaws, don't even think of getting into the relaitonship

Not just identify, TALK about it. Relationships are about COMMUNICATION, not just physical contact. DO NOT be afraid to talk about each other's flaws. It is IMPORTANT. If you don't talk about it it's just the same as avoiding the problem. Now what's that gonna get you? It's just gonna eventually blow up one day and it's going to end in a terrible way, I am sure.

What else? A REAL relationship requires a GOAL

Whats the goal of the relationship? A one night stand? A short term relationship? Long term? Or marriage?

THE ONLY way a relationship succeeds is MARRIAGE. That should be your INTENTIONS when you enter a relationship. You don't enter a relationship with the thought "Let's just get together". What's your goal? Whats your reason? If you don't have the goal, your not gonna get very far, and even if things DO work out, it is NOT going to be a very happy marriage.

BECAUSE YOU CANT EVEN TALK ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT.

Imagine not being able to be honest with the other person for the next FIFTY YEARS. How is that? Are you going to last? Gonna keep lying to yourself?

Trust me, things are going to be so unhappy for yourself if you do that to yourself. I can only pity and sympathize you.

But the choice is not mine, it belongs to everyone who is alive. You make the choice.

I've done my part. Now it's yours. Think if it's worth it to blindly go into relationships without knowing that person's BAD side. And without knowing how you both HANDLE arguments. And without even knowing what you WANT out of that relationship.

Invest time, learn about the other half. You'll appreciate it in the long run.

Welcome problems, it builds foundation, makes the relationship stronger. As long as you make it through. Welcome it. The world has problems for a reason. So that you become stronger. That's all there is to it. Without problems no real relationship can exist. GET THAT.

So what is a relationship really all about? Now I hope you understand

Its not about lust/sexual desire

It's not about ego

It's just about acceptance. Total acceptance. That's how you love someone.

NOW

Let me just use Alviss Kong as an example

Hey dude, let me say, you don't understand what the hell love is.

Because if you UNDERSTOOD what love is, you would have learned to ACCEPT your ex-es DECISION when she told you it's not going to work

YOU COULDNT ACCEPT IT THAT'S Y U FRIGGING JUMPED DOWN. THERE YA GO.

That's y acceptance is so important. It was just lust, for alviss, and he didn't even notice it, and it was ego too

Lust, because it is so obvious that the relationship is based on sexual desire

AND ego, because he posted it of facebook just to increase his self esteem because it was way too low.

These two factors. Use him as an example

Learn the real meaning of love

Make your relationship a success.

Accept the one you like, then you can love.

Acceptance.

Remember that.

Nitez folks =)

Friday, December 3, 2010

Hohhhhhhhhh =)

Ah! It's been... 2 weeks? Since my last post? Hmm, how busy oh how busy =)

It's funny, it feels like I'm a different person from 2 weeks ago.

How do I explain this... When you get to a certain level you look at life... Way differently than you would before.

SO, I'm juggling many areas in my life right now. Next up on my plate I got like 3-5 assignments due 21st dec? Ohhh, it's gonna be an awesome 2 weeks of assignments I tell ya =)

Just handed in one today. AHhhhhhh, college life =)

But enough about college Life. What comes next?

It might be weird but I'm already preparing for my life 5 years in advance.

SO what have you done to secure your future? It's definitely important

LIFE is not so easy. We might feel safe now, but next time, you never know, what may happen to us. So it's always good to plan ahead. You don't plan events one day before, ya know?

What do you think should I plan ahead about, you say?

Simple, your career. Go get yourself some side income. You can't survive on just one income. Wonder why most people still stay with their parents, that's why =)

Relationships. Well, build some good relationships with people, that's pretty basic. Build it in a sense that, when you do part ways, it's gonna be easy to maintain the relationship, since there is such a strong base. It's good to have a few good friends from each phase of our lives.

Self development. Have you ever thought, "hey, what's my life gonna be like many years from now? Is that where I want to be? Do I even know where I want to be?" Simple questions like these are important. You may not think so, but in time you'll find that unless you ask yourself these questions, you ain't getting nowhere in life. In the first place you don't know where you want to be! Does that make sense to you? Or does it not?

Let me elaborate further on self development.

Ask yourself these questions: What do I want my future family to have? Is there anything I can do now to give them that?

Also ask, what do you want your future family to say about you? Do you want your wife to say "My husband is a great man" or do you want her to say "man I so regret marrying him"?

Do you want your kids so say "I have the best father in the world" or "I wish I was never born in this family"?

Know the answer to these questions. It's the first step to becoming a responsible individual. You might say I sound old, but hey, if you plan on taking life seriously, then you'll have some serious fun next time, believe me =)

Isn't it fun, to have an incredible family?

Isn't it fun, to know that you have some secure future?

Isn't it fun, to know that you can become a full time parent someday?

YES, you have no idea how fun those things will be.

I'm quite a futurist, who knows why? Not important. What's important is I am, and the 5 years from now me will thank the current me for thinking about him. Definitely =)

So, yeah, start thinking about it. Start taking life seriously, then you can have some serious fun. Haha.

What's more fun than achieving your dreams? You have no idea =) So yeah, dream, then, turn it into reality. Once you do that everything would have been worth it.

Have direction. So many youngsters don't have a clear direction. Don't be like that. Make a change.

Motivate yourself. Think about your purpose of living.

To achieve freedom?

To get married? (This contradicts freedom in some way HAHA)

To achieve happiness?

To find your true purpose in life? What?

Talk to yourself. Ask yourself things. It's healthy, eventhough you might not think so.

The mind evolves. That's y each generation of humans is getting smarter than the previous. Were uncovering more sophisticated mathematical solutions, discovering more previously unknown facts about the world, and were becoming more technology savvy, which actually has both good and bad.

Open your mind. You are underestimating your own brain. More than you think you are.

Why? Because you always tell yourself "I can't do it, it's not possible"

This limits yourself in ways you can't ever imagine. You know that you ARE talking to yourself when you say those things out loud, let alone think about it.

Be careful what you tell yourself, because that's EXACTLY what your gonna be, believe it or not.

Tell yourself, it will happen, I will do it, no matter what the cost, it will happen

And you'll surprise yourself. The only hard part is programming your mind into a believer. In impossibilities. If you can do that your well on your way to achieving impossible stuff. Trust me.

We all have limitless potential. And sad thing is most of us never really achieve our true potential because we don't believe that we are capable. So yes, since you TELL yourself your not capable, that's what you're gonna be. Period.

Conditioning your mind is important. Why else do you set goals? Why else are you asked to read them all the time? Do you think it's for fun? It's conditioning your mental state and subconsciousness. I cannot stress how important goal setting and reading is.

You are subconsciously more powerful than you are consciously. Subconsciously you know if someone likes you or hates you, from body language. Subconsciously you know if an event is doing well or not. Subconsciously, you know that whether your future is going to be bright or not.

THE FUNNY THING IS

You sometimes don't realize this CONSCIOUSLY!

Funny isn't it?!?!?!??!!

This is because you have not been exercising your brain well enough. You haven't been feeding it with the right positive information. Your always surrounded by negative stuff and negative people. Why do you think I don't mix with certain groups of people?

Because I know that if I mix with them that's EXACTLY how I'm gonna be. Group influence. It's powerful. Be c careful who you mix with.

Hmmm, I've been going on and on and ON haven't I?! AHAHA

It's just great to exercise my mind again. It's so good. I did not realize that the mind is so so powerful, more so than I thought. Actually it's limitless, how far into the future the brain can think.

I have an idea of where I want to be in 5 or 6 years.

Married =) That's 1. There are a few others. But perhaps I'll go into them next time

Marriage. Hmmm.

Were so concerned that, maybe I won't meet the right guy or girl.

Don't.be.silly. You will meet the right guy or girl if you program yourself to think that way. Just try it.

I don't have doubts that I can get married by 25. It's just how badly I want it, that's all. I will definitely meet a girl who can accept me, and I can accept her. It is going to happen. Without a doubt.

And when I go into a relationship it's aiming for MARRIAGE. I am really serious and I don't take relationships as a joke or as a fling or as a just-for-fun-we-try-and-see-if-it-works kind of thing. It's for real.

I will go to that girl's parents and tell them, I want to be your daughters boyfriend.

BECAUSE I respect her parents. That's all there is to it. I won't date their daughter if they won't allow me. Not until I have proven myself to them.

And lets face it, logically if I'm aiming for marriage i HAVE to meet her parents, they're gonna be my in laws! I have to set a good relationship with them and make effort. That's the responsibility you have to make.

Funnyyy, most people still go through the trial and error method. It's just so so funny. YOUR probably gonna get more ERRORS than SUCCESSES

because the only way a relationship is gonna succeed is if you manage to reach MARRIAGE.

But even marriage is not the end of the journey yet. You still have to stay together, it's a challenge that is definitely no small or easy task.

Well, you could argue that trial and error is the only way to know if a relationship works.

Look, there are certain things you can only find out or unlock during the friendship stage. Once your together then it's gonna be hard to know certain things about each other because you HAVE to be nice and good to each other.

Does that make any sense to you?

Subconsciously, you know that made sense. HAHA I'm making use of the subconscious thing XD Remember, consciously you might disagree, but subconsciously you know that a relationship won't be healthy if it proceeds too quickly.

Why do you think so many marriages fail? Because they fail to understand each other well enough.

Have you heard of guys cheating their wives? Many times. But when she said "I do" to him, she probably didn't think that he would ever cheat on her, CORRECT?

What I'm trying to say is, take time to know who your dating. It's worth it, trust me.

There is only one person I will date and marry. There is only one person whom I will ever say "I love you" to, other than my family.

It's not something that I will just say to anyone. It's not something so liberal.

It's not something you take for granted. It's real. And I would never give it away so simply to just anyone. Believe that. If I can give it away after knowing you for 2 weeks then heck, my love must be so darned cheap am I right?

So when I do say I love you to someone someday.

Then that person would know that it is such an incredible privilege to be the only person to receive that kind of love =)

That's the kind of price I put on myself. I ain't cheap. I ain't just dating anybody.

Know your price. Don't sell yourself short. Your valuable. And so is your love. Don't ever forget that.

Man, it's good to exercise the brain, did I say it before? HAHA, okay, climbing tomorrow with pet niece, can't wait. It's a good week

And well, I can't wait to torture myself with more assignments the next 2 weeks, it's gonna be fun and skull-cracking, literally =)

Nitez peeps. Think about what I said and evaluate where you are and where you want to be. And whether you want a real relationship.

Ciaosu~! As reborn says haha~!