A Father's Message to His Kids

Read an article about a dad who new he had only less than a year to live, and he went on to buy birthday presents for his children's 18th and 21st birthday, filmed DVDs, paid for his own funeral and all those other things, before moving on from life.

So here is his message to his kids when they are old enough to read it. He's such a responsible and wonderful dad.

A FATHER'S RULES FOR FINDING FULFILMENT

• Be courteous, be punctual, always say please and thank you, and be sure to hold your knife and fork properly. Others take their cue on how to treat you from your manners.

• Be kind, considerate and compassionate when others are in trouble, even if you have problems of your own. Others will admire your selflessness and will help you in due course.

• Show moral courage. Do what is right, even if that makes you unpopular. I always thought it important to be able to look at myself in the shaving mirror every morning and not feel guilt or remorse. I depart this world with a pretty clear conscience.

• Show humility. Stand your ground but pause to reflect on what the other side are saying, and back off when you know you are wrong. Never worry about losing face. That only happens when you are pig-headed.

• Learn from your mistakes. You will make plenty so use them as a learning tool. If you keep making the same mistake or run into a problem, you’re doing something wrong.

• Avoid disparaging someone to a third party; it is only you who will look bad. If you have a problem with someone, tell them face to face.

• Hold fire! If someone crosses you, don’t react immediately. Once you say something it can never be taken back, and most people deserve a second chance.

• Have fun. If this involves taking risks, so be it. If you get caught, hold your hands up.

• Give to charity and help those who are less fortunate than yourselves: it’s easy and so rewarding.

• Always look on the upside! The glass is half full, never half empty. Every adversity has a silver lining if you seek it out.

• Make it your instinct always to say ‘yes’. Look for reasons to do something, not reasons to say no. Your friends will cherish you for that.

• Be canny: you will get more of what you want if you can give someone more of what they desire. Compromise can be king.

• Always accept a party invitation. You may not want to go, but they want you there. Show them courtesy and respect.

• Never ever let a friend down. I would bury bodies for my friends, if they asked me to . . . which is why I have chosen them carefully.

• Always tip for good service. It shows respect. But never reward poor service. Poor service is insulting.

• Always treat those you meet as your social equal, whether they are above or below your station in life. For those above you, show due deference, but don’t be a sycophant.

• Always respect age, as age equals wisdom.

• Be prepared to put the interests of your sibling first.

• Be proud of who you are and where you come from, but open your mind to other cultures and languages. When you begin to travel (as I hope you will), you’ll learn that your place in the world is both vital and insignificant. Don’t get too big for your breeches.

• Be ambitious, but not nakedly so. Be prepared to back your assertions with craftsmanship and hard work.

• Live every day to its full: do something that makes you smile or laugh, and avoid procrastination.

• Give of your best at school. Some teachers forget that pupils need incentives. So if your teacher doesn’t give you one, devise your own.

• Always pay the most you can afford. Never skimp on hotels, clothing, shoes, make-up or jewellery. But always look for a deal. You get what you pay for.

• Never give up! My two little soldiers have no dad, but you are brave, big-hearted, fit and strong. You are also loved by an immensely kind and supportive team of family and friends. You make your own good fortune, my children, so battle on.

• Never feel sorry for yourself, or at least don’t do it for long. Crying doesn’t make things better.

• Look after your body and it will look after you.

• Learn a language, or at least try. Never engage a person abroad in conversation without first greeting them in their own language; by all means ask if they speak English!

• And finally, cherish your mother, and take very good care of her.

I love you both with all my heart.
Daddy x

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So What's Next?

The badminton tournament is finally over.

So much hard work. And it is over. 4 long days.

Today, the finals, what awesome matches. I really had no idea.

I became so inspired. By the match. It was such a high standard match that it really made me feel. Wow.

Our college's very own national player faced off against the male singles champion.

In the end, the male singles champion won.

But the match was so great that I was really... Astounded.

She (the national player) showed some really amazing skills.

What really impresses me is her clever use of mind games and feign shots.

A smash shot turns into a drop shot just in like that! *flicks finger*

Tactics, strategy, planning. Wow. Just wow.

I feel so inspired right now. By her energy and her fighting spirit.

There is definitely the champion's aura from her. I feel it.

Unfortunately she has stopped playing for a month. Design course. You know how it is.

But if she had consistently trained, I think today's match would have ended quite differently.

She told me her training used to consist of waking up in the morning, training until lunch, then sleep for an hour or two, then train till dinner, then after dinner train till sleep. Everyday.

That's the national level for you.

Jia Lin you are one very amazing girl. Never have I met another like yourself. So that is, a national player for you. No wonder she made it so far.

It's a pity she did not continue training, otherwise I think she doesn't even have to study.

So what do I do now?

I am the president of the Rotaract Club. Our first real event in years I would say. This badminton tournament really made some name for our club.

There is progress.

But now I must focus and think of the very next step.

What should I do?

I already have an idea or a picture of what I want to achieve. Time to start taking action to draw it.

Thank you Jia Lin, for you have shown me the way, indirectly, without even noticing it. While the fire burns hot within me, I will do what it takes to make it happen.

Am I tired? What? Jia Lin played such a tough match while I just sat and watch. I shouldn't be complaining about feeling tired.

It isn't just about smashing hard. It isn't just about dropping the shot. It's about timing and precision of those shots. Where it lands. How to catch your enemy off guard, making them think it is a smash but making it a drop shot. Perfection of strokes.

Okay. It's time to move. Time waits for no man.

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Today I was Praised

Today a friend praised me

It is a little sad that when people praise you, the level of happiness is not the same as the level of hurt or sadness you feel when you are criticized

So because I should learn to be more happy about that praise, I will write about it

I was praised today.

A friend told me that a nice guy like me would not have trouble finding a girl!

And actually! I am quite happy! I just read that message again!

Sometimes I wonder how far along the journey I have come, and how long more there is to go.

The journey to becoming a real man, that is.

So many mistakes. But none of which I have regretted. For they have taught me so much. Without those teachings I would not be what I am today, so I am grateful, not regretful.

That day, last last Friday, in the Rotaract general meeting

I read a note out loud to the whole room. In front of 20 members.

The note was about my goal to get married by the age of 25. To be able to improve myself financially and also in terms of personal development to become a better human being.

Yes. I said it to all my members.

And because I said it I have to do it. Otherwise I would be a liar.

It was actually a little bit embarrassing to read it... It's the note that I would read every night before I sleep! And in the morning after I wake up!

I knew that it had an impact on a few of them in that room. I know that, a few of them understood the power of reinforcing your mind mentally consistently.

Yes. I got my message across. And I was happy.

Now everyone is waiting to see if it would happen.

Would Danny Siah get married by 25?

Would he?

Does his methods work?

Will it come true?

If I believe in it 100% then it would come true

If it doesn't happen it just means I did not do it correctly

So I must keep trying. Persistently. To make sure I get it done right.

To the few who understood my meaning that day. I hope you write down your goals and read them everyday consistently.

It will surely help you achieve what you want out of life. Do not underestimate the subconscious mind. It does things your conscious mind could only dream of.

And so I was praised today.

And I am happy.

What a wonderful thing to have someone have an impression of you that would let them say such nice things about you?

I will do my best in all my undertakings. I hope that I can learn how to love her properly. Despite all hardships and tough times, I'll learn to make things work and last. I'll read lots and lots of books. And I'll make sure I become as good as I can be as a man, in order to increase the odds of getting married at what most people would consider, a young age of 25, in a first relationship.

Odds are slim. But odds are always odds. They don't beat miracles.

So as long as there is a chance that it will come true I will continue to believe. At the back of my mind it will happen.

Every night before I sleep after I have read those goals. I try my best to picture it. Me getting married. Burn the image into my mind. Feel it. Sooner or later. It will come true.

It must. Because somewhere in the future.

It has already happened.

Goodnight =)

p.s. I was praised today

Danny Siah