Relationships

I'm here to talk about relationships. To all out there who misunderstand what a relationship really is about.

No, it's not about "i love you you love me i want to be together with you forever"

No, its not about "i need you i want to feel you i want to touch you"

No, its all about "i'll go through all the hardships with you, and I believe in our relationship no matter what"

It's not about being all lovey dovey with one another. That's just satisfying each other's sexual desire. A relationship based on sexual desire is just bullcrap. Don't give me that, that's not a real relationship.

Neither is a relationship that is based on "i want to look good and i want to make other jealous and i have the hottest guy or girl as my bf or gf"

that's just ego. That's just wanting to make yourself look good for the sake of your low self esteem. That's just another pile of crap. Together with sexual desire its just a pile of dirt and rubbish.

What is a real relationship?

A real relationship is where you go through PROBLEMS together. No matter what happens. Go through it. Don't just comfort him or her, go THROUGH it with him or her. How can I help? Is there something I can do?

What else? It's about revealing your true self to the other person. YOU THINK that by being nice to each other, everything is going to work out? BULLSHIT. Being nice is PRETENDING. It's not being honest with each other. HONESTY is EVERYTHING. It's easy to be nice, hell I can be nice to strangers, even.

Get to know that person you like before making any move. Go through problems with that person, as a trial run. Have some misunderstandings. Get to know him or her better. Then you know, if both of you can handle arguments, and misunderstandings. How the HELL are you going to solve problems when it happens in a relationship otherwise?

ARGUMENTS are HEALTHY. Why? As I said, it lets u know what the other person really is about. Does that person avoid problems? Does he or she have some kind of fear or some kind of attitude problem? All these things need to be addressed BEFORE you get into a relationship

You CANT like someone just for their GOOD part. You gotta like them for their BAD part too.

You think relationships are simple? NO, its not, because its all about acceptance. TOTAL acceptance of the person you like. Sure, things are great when you guys are not arguing. BUT what if you are fighting? Will things just solve by itself? Well, you wish.

Can you accept someone else, who has a totally different opinion? HELL NO, it ain't easy. Try living with your family you'll know that its hard, EVERYONE has different opinions. It's all about understanding one another, and accepting.

So you think you can pull off a relationship by just going through the good times? Dont give me that crap, it ain't gonna work off in the long run.

NO ONE is perfect. If you think that guy is super duper nice or he's so good to you, then don't buy it. There is definitely a catch. Get to know what that catch is. No one is perfect. No one. There is no mr or mrs perfect out there. Unless you identify the flaws, don't even think of getting into the relaitonship

Not just identify, TALK about it. Relationships are about COMMUNICATION, not just physical contact. DO NOT be afraid to talk about each other's flaws. It is IMPORTANT. If you don't talk about it it's just the same as avoiding the problem. Now what's that gonna get you? It's just gonna eventually blow up one day and it's going to end in a terrible way, I am sure.

What else? A REAL relationship requires a GOAL

Whats the goal of the relationship? A one night stand? A short term relationship? Long term? Or marriage?

THE ONLY way a relationship succeeds is MARRIAGE. That should be your INTENTIONS when you enter a relationship. You don't enter a relationship with the thought "Let's just get together". What's your goal? Whats your reason? If you don't have the goal, your not gonna get very far, and even if things DO work out, it is NOT going to be a very happy marriage.

BECAUSE YOU CANT EVEN TALK ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT.

Imagine not being able to be honest with the other person for the next FIFTY YEARS. How is that? Are you going to last? Gonna keep lying to yourself?

Trust me, things are going to be so unhappy for yourself if you do that to yourself. I can only pity and sympathize you.

But the choice is not mine, it belongs to everyone who is alive. You make the choice.

I've done my part. Now it's yours. Think if it's worth it to blindly go into relationships without knowing that person's BAD side. And without knowing how you both HANDLE arguments. And without even knowing what you WANT out of that relationship.

Invest time, learn about the other half. You'll appreciate it in the long run.

Welcome problems, it builds foundation, makes the relationship stronger. As long as you make it through. Welcome it. The world has problems for a reason. So that you become stronger. That's all there is to it. Without problems no real relationship can exist. GET THAT.

So what is a relationship really all about? Now I hope you understand

Its not about lust/sexual desire

It's not about ego

It's just about acceptance. Total acceptance. That's how you love someone.

NOW

Let me just use Alviss Kong as an example

Hey dude, let me say, you don't understand what the hell love is.

Because if you UNDERSTOOD what love is, you would have learned to ACCEPT your ex-es DECISION when she told you it's not going to work

YOU COULDNT ACCEPT IT THAT'S Y U FRIGGING JUMPED DOWN. THERE YA GO.

That's y acceptance is so important. It was just lust, for alviss, and he didn't even notice it, and it was ego too

Lust, because it is so obvious that the relationship is based on sexual desire

AND ego, because he posted it of facebook just to increase his self esteem because it was way too low.

These two factors. Use him as an example

Learn the real meaning of love

Make your relationship a success.

Accept the one you like, then you can love.

Acceptance.

Remember that.

Nitez folks =)