Went climbing yesterday night, first time climbing so late
I'll update on it as soon as I get the pics from wee vien and william
Didn't think that climbing at night would make it so much easier to sleep!!
Maybe that's the cure for my insomnia problems....
But one thing lar... a lot of strong ppl hogging the bouldering walls... You might not
be able to climb at ur favourite spots
Be right back, i'll have a bath before starting this post.. So sleepy, can't get into the right mood!!
Okay, I'm back, shall we begin?
I'm gonna be serious for a bit yea, as always (:
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A lot of us have quite a misconception of fear...
Indeed, fear has conquered our lives in many ways
Fear of Heights
Fear of death
Fear of people
Fear of commitment
Fear of being loved
Fear of not being accepted by others
Fear of being hurt
And many more exist within us, differing from one individual to another
So much so that you could say, fear has built it's empire in our hearts
People are even afraid of fear itself
But being human, fear is a part of our emotions
It's not something we can avoid, like love
Yes... just like love
So, instead of being afraid of our own emotions, we should try to understand more about it
What is fear?
Fear protects us, in a way as to not attempt too dangerous activities, for if there is
no fear we become daredevils
From another perspective, fear is also dangerous, it might even kill us
What do I mean kill? Is it even possible for fear to kill us?
Let me ask you
Why do people commit suicide?
Pressure? Tension? Problems?
If I were to talk to a man who was going to jump
I would say
Are you afraid to face it?
Coward, be a man and face the world, not run from it
I might not know what problems you may be facing but...
I know that you don't really want to die right now, but you're forcing yourself to
And if you can really come back and face it all
Ur quite a man (:
The choice is yours to the end though...
And then I'll walk away cool-ly.... But potong steam loh if I see his face in
the papers the next morning...
Maybe I should've just did what Jim Carrey did in Yes man
Fear to face the harsh reality that this world has to offer...
Would drive any man insane, and even to the grave
It would be normal for people to run away from something they're afraid of
Feelings like 'i can't do it anymore' or 'there's no point in living anymore'
start to arise in your gut
Humans are emotional beings
And in times like this they're prone to listening to their emotions than their heads
BUT
This is where we misunderstand
The whole point of fear!
We never really saw the big picture
The true meaning of fear
Or rather, it's true purpose
We were always running away from it, so we never saw it in a clear light
Turn around and look
Fear
Only makes us stronger...
When we conquer it
Imagine you were afraid of heights
But after multiple exposure to heights (rock climbing, flying, etc)
You no longer fear it, cause you know it won't harm you, and even if it does
So what (:
I'm not gonna give up rock climbing just because there is a risk to fall and die
There is always a risk no matter what you do, sometimes death comes when you least expect it
The choice is still yours, in my case I don't want to spend my entire life being scared of it
So why are we running away from something that's supposed to help us?
Fear exists so we can overcome it
If there was no fear, there is nothing to overcome
No way to become a stronger person
And life would be just plain dull
As I said fear made it's empire in our hearts
Thus it is our job to conquer the entire empire!
Not at all once, but maybe one fear or region at a time
Humans want to become better at life
That is their goal
Something to keep them busy
So you could say, fear is a good and bad thing
It's good when you can overcome it
It's reaaaaally bad when you can't
You could say fear is really subjective, depending on how the individual reacts to it
So there's really no reason to run from it
Because you'll have to face your fears someday anyway...
This is how it is when you look at fear in the positive light
Not in the negative... it just makes you so gloomy and more afraid...
But I never actually mentioned HOW to face our fears
But...
Why should I say something that you already know deep down?
Because you would know your fear best, and the cure for it
The same way I would know about my own fear, and how to fight it
Because fear is a very individual thing...
But there is one fear I would like to point out
People do know through my blog, and through interactions with me on a daily basis, that I'm
quite an open guy, I talk about a lot of things, even sex
And if I cared about what people said, I wouldn't have put up the last post (:
I believe that as long as I'm not hurting someone else, it's okay to talk about what you want
the funny thing here is...
How many people have a chance to be so honest with themselves?
No, let me rephrase that
How many people have the PRIVILEGE to be themselves?
To say what they want, to do what they want, as long as it doesn't hurt others
Society has become a very judgemental medium
and so, arises the fear of being judged by others
And not being accepted for who you are
It's just... sad. People change so much because of that
You no longer see their smiles
How could you be happy deep down when you're someone you're not?
To know that people only accept you when you act the way they want?
I was really lucky to be able to be who I am. I don't hv to hide my true personality or be someone else.
Because that's who I am, the straightforward type
What type of person are you?
How do you conquer this fear?
I stood my ground, people are going to accept me for who I am, not what they want me to be
That was how I faced this fear
How would you face it?
I was once a bit confused about fear
I'm the kind of guy who doesn't drink, gamble, smoke, have one night stands, etc
And I thought I was afraid of those things
Was I afraid to smoke?
To gamble?
To have sex?
Was it fear that stopped me?
After a while I realized
No, it was because I had a really good reason not to do those things
I wasn't afraid after all (:
I didn't want people to worry for me, so I never smoked
I didn't really have awesome luck, so there was really no need to gamble
I never had sex because it's meant to be with someone important, not just anyone
I didn't want to come home drunk and start hitting my family, so I never drank
But there was one thing I was afraid of though
I was afraid I wouldn't make a good boyfriend (:
But the time will come eventually for me to face that last one
So in the end, ask yourself
Are you afraid to face the world?
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