Misconception of Love part 1 : I'll do anything for you

Yo! I just had a strange thought today, so I'll get down to writing about it

Have you ever seen.... The situation where... A guy or girl falls in love with someone

And that guy or girl would do ANYTHING for the person they love?

Yes, we've seen it happen before, regardless of gender

SO what is the problem here? Isn't it right to do ANYTHING for someone you love?

YES, but that depends WHERE in the relationship you currently are at.

If you are already in a long term relationship or even if you are MARRIED, then yes.

If you are NOT with the person yet, then NO. You should not do anything and everything for that person. This also applies to couples who have not built a strong foundation in their relationship yet.


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Why is this so? Isn't it proper that we show how much we care about someone?

It's simple, really, when you give love away simply like that, it is usually taken for granted.

Why? Because you gave it away at no cost.

Sureeeee, love is priceless etc etc.

But you have to look at it from this perspective. You gave love, something so priceless, away at no cost.

Have you ever received something for free and just chucked it away in your house somewhere? To be lost forever? Same story.

Becareful how you give it away. I'm not talking about the normal kind of love where you care for your friends, that's okay, but when it comes to relationship-kind-of love it's totally a different thing.

Maybe you might defend by saying our mom gives us love unconditionally. Sure, because she is our MOM. What about the girl or guy we like? Are they our mom or dad? No... Nothing can replace a mom's love. Nothing.

So that's why, when you would do ANYTHING for someone. Of course they wouldn't give you the same in return!

You never checked whether she would be willing to love you in return.

Yes, love is not expecting anything in return, but IDEALLY the other person would love you back.

Okay. So you say, I don't mind giving it to him or her, even if he or she doesn't return my love. Okay, if your happy with that then it's totally fine. Really. Problem is for most people when the love is NOT returned they get seriously upset and depressed.

SO NO. You don't be a slave for the person you like. That's totally and utterly nonsense. Neither do you be overprotective. Or do you place your EMOTIONS for him or her in front of your FRIENDSHIP with him or her.

Never ever ever ever ever ever x infinity start a relationship prematurely. Golden rule. Believe it or not it's really not healthy even if the relationship works out.

But nah, I'm not worried, everyone will sooner or later realize this. Just that, I happen to know this a little earlier is all. How do I know this? Just observing people is all. You don't have to be in a relationship to know certain basic things.

And remember, everything I say, the purpose is not to make anyone believe me, it's just for people to take note. One day if it applies to you then you will understand yourself better. That's really all my purpose really is.

SO don't worry about whether this is true or not. Time tells everything.

Ciaoz peeps, gotta go read liar game manga man oh YEA =D